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writes:Dear Cupid,I am an 18 year old and I am in love with a 40 year old man. He doesn't know. I can't help it but everytime I see him or talk with him, I just want to be in his arms. I feel like there is no care in the world when I am around him. I don't know if this is morally correct or not. My friends say he is way to old. But I don't feel he is. I don't care about age. He fits my personality so well. When i get a hug from him it's like my whole mind is satisfied for the rest of the night. All i want to know is, Am I in the wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): im a 17 year old turning 18 in less than 2 months and my boyfriend next year will be turning 40. to be honset it may seem weird at first but if you two feel good about it and you guys think its rght then go right ahead and do it.
unless it turns into babysitting then we have a problem.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 I did a Lecture on exactly this topic entitled Dating Younger Women: A guide for older men to the emotional needs of loving younger women. It was about couples that are 20 years apart. It is actually more common that most people think, but there are stigmas that you are going to have to face as a couple with such an age difference, as well as your own personal challenge...(when you are 40, he will be 62).
There is nothing "wrong", but it will be a harder relationship to manage.
In terms of why such a young lady would love such an older man? Older men tend to have the life experience and other things going for them that address the emotional needs of young women, sometimes better than men her own age.
You can find more info about my lecture at my website.
-Frank Kermit
www.franktalks.com
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reader, Dani28  +, writes (9 January 2009):
No sweetheart this isnt wrong, u cant help who u have feelings for, what i would say though is that u should consider the future, lets say this guy felt thw same way about you? what happens when u reach an age of wanting a family? will he? i know that is all negative but right now you are falling in love and only see the nice things, its very easy to get swept away, keep grounded and consider your future. Im not saying dont go for it though! Age is nothing but a number if you are both singing from the same hymn sheet and wanting the same things from life.
Message me if u would like to talk more xx
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reader, planepocket +, writes (9 January 2009):
Have you heard the expression "all is fair in love and war"?If you love him that is all that matters.
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