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writes:Right, I'm not sure if this is a typical occurance, but I haven't been able to find any questions or answers on this topic on here yet. Basically, I have a crush on a younger guy. I have been away for a week on an adventurous training trip, and you end up being quite close with each other at the end of the week. There's this guy, let's just call him Tom. He is in year 10 at school, and I am in year 12. I've gotten to really like him over this period of time, and I'm pretty sure he likes me too, as he made it quite obvious. I feel really embarrassed for liking a younger guy but he seems about as mature as me (the boys in my year are far more immature than him) but he is still 2 years younger than him. What makes it worse is that I am in a position of responsibility above him, and people would most likely criticise me if i made a move. I do not know if acting upon these feelings would be overstepping a boundary, but I really don't know what to do. Please give me some advice. xxxx
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reader, anonymousunknown  +, writes (27 July 2011):
Im also in the same exact situation xD , and it turned out pretty well actually since we both liked eachother alot , the others in our classes all understood , they thought we were a great couple. If you like him alot n he likes you than i think you should go for it :). If classmates bug you about this then show them that its not some stupid thing , that its a mature relationship ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): Dude, I'm in the exact same predicament as you. Except that I'm in the 11th grade and the guy I like is in the 9th grade. I've hidden my feelings for him for quite a while now because I'm pretty embarrassed of myself. This guy I like is pretty mature for his age (even though he's a freshman) and he's cute too, but I don't know if it would work out between us. It's fun being in our own little fairytales and stuff... but in reality, I'm going to college pretty soon and so are you. This boy (and your boy) are going to be left behind and who knows? Maybe we'll move on. Maybe they'll move on too. (Sorry, I just noticed the date you wrote this: April. lol. So you're probably already in college now) Whatever happens will happen, but don't worry, you'll find a good guy soon. A guy that you aren't embarrassed of being with. Haha. I hope you like my comments on this :) It feels nice to know that I'm not alone in this weird hormone journey. lol.
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reader, beebs +, writes (21 August 2010):
beebs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, thanks for all your help. Unfortunately it's not going to work because he said he's really into me but i'm too focussed on getting into university and dont have enough time for him, he feels the age gap in that way because i'm going on university open days and he's still in boy scouts... Cheers for all the advice though, you're great people :)
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions +, writes (26 June 2010):
 there's plenty of 16 boys with our 14 year old girls. so why carnt it be the other way round. its not too creepy and at the end of the day its only an age.go for it :)
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reader, 4ch  +, writes (24 June 2010):
hy im a 15 yo guy and a 17 yo girl likes me. so where on the same subject. i asked this girl if she wanted to be with a younger guy like me ang she said yes. she has good morals so she made a choice that suits her and she wants me. so go with your feelings and dont let others change your mind. xoxoxoxoxo
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reader, Red Boy  +, writes (15 April 2010):
It's sexist to believe that guys can date younger girls but girls can't date younger guys. If you really like the guy it shouldn't matter if he's older or younger, just as long as he's not WAY younger like 11-13, well at least when you're young. As long as the gap is like 2 years or so then it's ok. If people have a problem with that then forget about them. Why would you care about the opinion of someone who you won't see after high school or college. Just forget about what other people think on the matter as far as the age difference and go for it.
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reader, Vicci +, writes (10 April 2010):
 if you have facebook or msn; why don't you just get into a conversation, and ask if he wants to meet up with some mates. then say can i have your number so we can stay in touch, and voilia/
if you want to do it outright, so he knows your interested, ask him to meet up, or wait the 1 1/2 weeks until you can display that xxxxx
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reader, beebs +, writes (9 April 2010):
beebs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help guys. I think I'll go for it but I don't have his mobile number and he doesn't have mine and I'm afraid to ask anyone for it in case they suspect something before anything happens and they ruin it. Should I wait until we are back at school (a week and a bit) to subtly give him my number and hope he texts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Plenty of guys have no problem dating younger girls with an age difference like yours. When I was at school there were a few girls in year 10 who had bf's 17 or 18.
While he's under 16 though it would be illegal to have sex with him, even if he consents and though you say he's mature his parents would obviously have concern that he might have a sexual relationship.
If he makes you laugh and you have fun together then you should see how things go
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reader, sweetspicy +, writes (9 April 2010):
 That's really not a big age difference at all, maybe if you were 10 yrs older than him I'd call you a cugar but your not so dont worry. High school can be tough so dont worry about what your friends think either, in a few years you wont be in high school and no one will even remember, do what ever makes you happy.
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Age is just a number well in most cases, and this isnt a really big deal i think its normal to be honest its only 2 years, and if youu both like each other then i believe youu should tell him and she were it goes.
Its your choice no one elses so u make your own choices and if any one does judge youu and you believe that youu could work show them.
Its really nothingg to worry aboutt Hun :)
Inbox Me If Youu Need Any More Help
Daniielle x
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reader, TimmD +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Don't let the age difference bother you. If you like him, be with him. There is nothing unusual or bad about your age difference.
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reader, Vicci +, writes (9 April 2010):
I don't really think your over-stepping the boundary. If you want this guy, tell him and see what happens. If people judge you for it, just show them what a mature relationship you have. Don't do overly intimate displays of affection in public, don't be over the top, keep it mature, and a fun happy relationship x
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