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writes:please no people saying ewwwwwww gross incest or anything like that...ok so my second cousin (my dad's cousin's son) and i met last year for the first time when i went on holiday to canada..he lives in new york and i live in the uk so we didn't grow up together or anything like that, infact we didn't really know each other existed. we got on very well unlike i do with any other cousins i have and we had a connection but i really just assumed it was because we were family and thought of him as a new found brother or something. i dont know why but i was kind of attracted to him and i think he was to me aswell but ive heard that can happen to a lot of people so i just ignored it. anyway last week he came over to london with my other cousin cos my great uncle brings some over every year and we all met up a couple of times, nothing had changed and we both still got on really well and talked for hours as if we were really good friends, i don't know why but sometimes he would put his arm around me and tickle me and hug me and just generally flirt with me, sometimes he'd offer me massages aswell but i didn't think much of it because he seems like he would be that kind of guy to any girl. on the night before they left i stayed at my grandads where they were staying and planned on seeing them off the next day..my other cousin was asleep on the bed next to us and we were sitting on the other bed just watching tv and talking..then he put his arm around me and my head was resting on his chest while we continued to talk and he would stroke my arm and ran his hands through my hair. it sounds weird but i felt completely comfortable with him doing it and i don't even know why..he carried on doing it for hours until 2 or 3 in the morning and we were beginning to fall asleep. i could hear his heart beginning to beat faster and stuff, and then i felt him kiss me on the forehead??? and i looked at him and asked him if he just kissed me and he said "i don't know". after that things got weird and we were looking at each other and he felt my lips and i felt his and then we kissed?!?!? and the freaky thing is i didn't mind it. i don't know what to do, i don't know why it happened and i'm worried that it's going to affect our friendship forever..he wouldn't talk to me the next morning, and the goodbye was really awkward at the airport, i really want to talk to him about it all but i don't know what to say, and the only way i can talk to him is on facebook..i'm so confused someone please give me some advice??! i want to find out why it happened, does this happen to lots of people?
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 You both have a crush on eachother but feel awkward about it. Also, you both are worried about scaring away the other person because you feel that other person will be offended or find it weird. He most likely feels guilty about having feelings for you.
My suggestion is if you like him, just tell him that. There is a good chance he will be relieved and tell you he feels the same way.
I'm not going to get into whether or not you two being together is right or wrong. Second cousins that you haven't known very long aren't exactly a brother/sister/or even first cousin so I'd say if you like him just tell him.
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Wow, I think that your story is quite amazing. I know people who have done lots more than you have with your cousin and the most important thing is to talk it over with him. If I were him I would forgive and forget. It was a kiss and it obviously didnt mean THAT much ...
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