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writes:Im 15 and Pregent , Me and my boyfriend started haveing sex unprotected for about 2 month but i never i got pregent , Until One day we Both decided to Plan on haveing a Baby. Three weeks ago after he cummed inside of me . I took Three pregencey test . All Of them were negative' i Lost My Hope's on Haveing A baby A week Later i started my period. I was On it for a week and after I smoked ' Does this effect the baby? I Plan to Have ? Me and My boyfriend Kept trying to have this baby And its been about 1 Month and 10 day's ? You think i Should take another pregencey test ? And How do I confront My Mother ? My brother has A baby and he is Only 21 and my Mom feels bad how he sturrgles' and She expect's me to be diffrent ? How do Ic confront my parents' that im pregent ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): Oh my god you are a stupid young girl arnt you? How are you ever going to support a baby? Guess you will just become another sad statistic who relies on our taxes. Dont trick yourself into thinking your "boyfriend" will hang around when you have this baby. You have a hell of a lot of growing up to do before you have a child, you may think it is all fun and cutey cutey now but its not. I guess you see this as an easy way out of going to school and getting a job? Grow tha fark up
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reader, KoriNickole +, writes (6 February 2010):
im not gonna sit here and bring you down about your spelling,but i am going to say, WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?? your 15 and already want a kid. hunny please dont get pregnant,for a list of reasons,the babys daddy could leave you and you would be stuck raising a kid by yourself,you need to focus on school so when you do get old enough to start thinking about kids you will atleast have an education and will be able to support your child with a good job,and right now your just not ready sweetie,trust me in a few years you will understand what everyone is saying,its hard and your just not ready..
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 February 2010):
 I think you are jealous of your brother and his baby and that you are trying to recapture your mother's attention. I also think it's a sign that you're not ready to be a mother, if you don't know how to talk to your own mother.
What does the word "confront" mean to you?
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (6 February 2010):
 First, watch "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant" on MTV. Tell yourself that you're not going to struggle to make ends meet or keep your relationship together or finish school like those girls because your life will be much easier.
Then turn on Discovery Health and watch all of the programs that show natural childbirth. Then tell yourself it won't hurt and you won't get fat and your boyfriend will still love you when you gain all the weight because your life will be much easier.
Then call social services and find out how to apply for welfare. Then tell yourself you and your baby can live off that money and that your boyfriend won't mind paying the state back for any benefits you and the baby receive. Tell yourself none of this will be a problem because your life will be easy.
Next find out how much it costs to take a taxi or how long it takes to ride the bus to the doctor's office or emergency room; you're not even old enough to drive your baby to appointments, but that's not important because your baby will never be sick and your mom/boyfriend/next door neighbor will be thrilled take you wherever you need to go. Your life will be easy.
Finally, ask your mom all of the questions you are asking strangers on the internet. Surely, you're adult enough to plan a pregnancy, shouldn't you be adult enough to inform your mother of your plans? After all, she's going to be THRILLED and won't be at all disappointed because she wanted you to have a future. None of this is a problem because unlike every other teen mom in America, your life will be easy.
After you do all of this, get a puppy with your boyfriend. See if you can put up with a puppy that whines all night. See if your boyfriend is willing to clean up after the puppy when it poops or pees indoors. See if he's willing to pay for vet bills. See if he's willing to train the puppy and teach it things. From this, you can get an idea of what kind of parent he will be and what kind of future you will have if you become a parent at 15. Puppies are a lot of work, but they're a hell of a lot easier than kids.
Please slow down and give yourself--and your future children--a chance at a good life. Stop trying to get pregnant.
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 Well first off, it's completely normal to want a baby - however, wanting a baby, and purposely having unprotected sex and planning to have one are completely different things.
Before jumping to any conclusions though, you might want to make sure that you really are pregnant! I mean you've said it yourself - all your pregnancy test were negative plus you've had your period, so chances are that you're not! So yes, I think you should take another one before telling anyone that you are pregnant when in fact you're not!
And if you aren't pregnant - and I'm pretty sure you're not - stop being so stupid and grow up! You are way too immature to have a baby! You can barely take responsibility for your own actions, how are you going to teach your kid right from wrong?
I must say though, the last anonymous poster made me laugh. He/she is right, but commenting on your bad spelling and english and then not spelling properly themselves seems very ridiculous to me!
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 Just following up, Just realise" you are dreaming of getting pregnant, you dont even know how to write it correctly.. Im sorry little girl but this is not the right time for you to have a baby., Try to go to School first and learn some good things that you can tell to your dream baby. For now, adopt a baby dog ok... trust me its a good way to deal with your puvirty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): Don't do it yet! So many reasons why are already covered below. At least wait until you write in proper English!!!
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich +, writes (5 February 2010):
Whats goin on? I read a lot here, 15 years old either pregnant or wanting to have a baby! What about the School?
What about the freedom being teenage! Better get a cute baby dog and put your attention to it. Thats what i do to my 16 years old girl when she was getting crazy because of puvirty.
at least now she is 17 and for god sake she is not at the moment thinking about this stuff and hopefully she finished her schoool first before thinking this things.Now she is happy to her baby dog. she even made a dress for her dog by her own hand.Why dont you try it too first,before thinking of a baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): OMG, first of all u want a baby but u cant even write or spell properly. what makes u think that ur life is going to be much better and easier with a baby in ur arms?
what makes u thinkg that ur bf will be there to support u once u have this baby?
sure he wud like it during the 1st couple of weeks but then he will feel tied down and would want to be free and live his life like other people his age do.
and how the hell are u going to support this kid? ure underaged.. u cant even get a job. this is so ridiculous, havent u even tried to realitically imagine what it would be like having a baby?
u would have to sacrifice ur life and friends just to take care of it. u wouldnt be ableto do the things that u once enjoyed doing, because dnt expect ur mother being there to take care of it when u want to go out and have some fun.
ur bf might take care of sometimes it but U are going to have full responsability of it and its going to physically and emotionall drain u and exhaust u. u might even start resenting ur kid once u see ur friends all going out to clubs, hooking up with guys and having fun.
ud be back at home taking care of ur kid, and once ure 16 ud prob be forced to get some really crappy job in order to help pay for it, but u will end up having very little to spend on urself because babies are EXPENSIVE.
DONT have a baby, u will just end up regreting it! wait until u are older, and more finantially secure. wait until u have matured, because believe me u will end up thinking that u that ur childhood was cut short because of ur stupid decisions .
why cant u just be care/free and worry about more important stuff like school, boys, friends, makeup and all that crap that teenagers enjoy. most importantly, take ur future more seriously and think what u want to do with ur life.
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reader, Breaths +, writes (5 February 2010):
 Wow I mean really...no offense but your are still just a BABY in the family.
Do you know how difficult it is financially AND emotionally??? You are way to young to understand these strugles.
Not trying to be mean but you are only 15 and want a baby I mean what is THAT about? And think about school.. you may possibly have to drop out and maybe get your GED later which is not very good I mean yes it will help but it is def not as good as the high school dp
I normally write better than this but I am in a set of mind right now. Speaking of YOU dont have that great of grammer so what are you going to teach your child???
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): You will have a baby. You will put on a lot of weight and your body will change in ways you never wanted. Then, because you're so young, you will go through a labour that will last a couple of days. Your boyfriend will be so traumatized because he is also immature that he will never want to have sex with you again. Then you'll give up your education and social life to raise a child, not sleep for days on end, and struggle to provide for your family because you can't get a remotely decent job. Then your boyfriend will leave you, and you will be all alone.
Stop being such a selfish, idiotic LITTLE GIRL and grow the hell up. Your poor child, I feel so sorry for it. Think about your child's life that you would totally screw up if you had it now. Wait until you are physically and emotionally mature enough. Learning how to spell might help you in life, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): You are being very foolish. Sorry but that's the plain truth.
I cannot add any more to what the other aunts and uncles have written.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): I'm sorry but you can't even write in proper english, what kind of education are you going to have to pass on to your child? Wanting to be a mother is wonderful, but it is not a 'i want i get to have' situation. Bringing another baby into the world is bad. And yes, smoking is bad for a baby and can sometimes affect ur abiity to conceive.
You're too young. too young. tooooo younnnngg. You're brother is 21 - that is SIX years older than you and THAT is still too young to have a child without being prepared.
Do you want to have a baby, have it live in a world where as a mother you can't even afford to buy it's food and nappies? Really? You want to be 18 when your child is 3 and wants to go for days out and needs all your attention and you want to go out with your friends? And when you're 21 your child will be six. they'll be in school and need all of your attention all the time! And you'll want to go out drinking.
I AM having a rant and i'm not ashamed of that because you don't deserve to have a baby! Not in a mean 'ur a bad person' kind of way. but in a 'ur not old enough and don't have a clue' kind of way. Really.
Think how amazingly happy you could make a baby, when you've got a job, you've saved money, and you know for sure you're going to be with the father of your baby forever. Think about how great a life you can give a baby, if you wait three or four years and finish experiencing your life before giving life to someone else.
Its not the end of the world if you finish being a kid before having a kid.
Don't be stupid.
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (5 February 2010):
I had to reread this twice because I couldn't believe what you're saying. You're 15 y/o and trust me this is not something you should be wanting right now. Having a baby will drastically change your life and you're boyfriend's life. I would think you would have a first hand idea with your brother's experience and his struggles. You're boyfriend might want to have the baby too but if things get tough he might just bail on you and I'm talking from what I've seen first hand with some of my friends. No matter how much you know a person people change overtime especially when you're still teenagers. Think about this, while your home taking care of your baby all of your peers are out having fun. You'll be limited in doing things that you want and you both would have to get a job and stick to it even if you hate it. I'm not here to tell you no I'm here to tell you that that's not a very good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): *me ranting*
Are you financially stable to have a baby? Hun your 15...There aren't even that many jobs that they let 15 year olds take. And what about your education? Having a baby now will not only affect you. What if you do have a baby, but you don't have the money to care for it? You could be living in a car for the babes entire childhood.
*my advice if you totally ignore the above*
It seems like your having difficulty getting pregnant? Are you sterile maybe? Or maybe your trying before you ovulate? If this seems like the case, I suggest you go to the doctors and get tested for being sterile. Or look at the calender...I'm pretty sure that you ovulate around 14 days after your period.
Good luck...And please think about how the babies life will be.Don't be selfish because you want a baby. Because the babes childhood (and as she/he gets older) could be traumatic. And I'm pretty sure I know what I'm saying, my Mother had her first child at about 14. And she doesn't speak to her because of what she had to go through as a kid, my mom was absolutely heartbroken.
Hope I helped,
-Vannah
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