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writes:Hiya, I'll try to make this short (and not too boring for whoever is reading!) It's a pretty traditional story of unrequited love with a best friend, the problem is that we are both girls. I'm gay, she's straight. I told her I was gay a few years back and she was shocked (I am not your 'typical' lesbian or whatever). We've been best friends for around 5/6 years now and I've been head over heels for her for around 3/4. Basically she is extremely cuddly with me, we act like a couple would in many ways. She is very 'touchy feely' with me. Many of my friends and family have commented and said that she is gay but just in denial and that I should move on before I get hurt as she's not ready to accept that she's at least bisexual. The things she says and the way she acts around me is far too intimate for us just to be 'just' be friends. Very often when we're laying in bed cuddling (I know it sounds ridiculous) I am almost certain that she is extremely close to kissing me. I freak out usually at this point and pull away, I'm not really sure why. Basically I don't know whether to pursue this, does it sound like normal behaviour between two friends? I'm confused! I hope this isn't too long winded, xx
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reader, Caring Stranger +, writes (15 February 2010):
 hi,
ive been in the exact same position as you now so i know exactly how you feel.
she knows you are gay and still cuddles you and has intimate behaviour with you which does to me sound like she may like you too.
You need to talk...she knows your gay, find out about her. ask her if she likes anyone at the moment, ask her if she has ever been attracted to girls or even kissed a girl. these are all things you could bring into a conversation to work out how she feels.
ALSO...the next time you cuddle and you feel she may kiss you...try not to get nervous and move away because if she does like you then she may feel as though you are rejecting her. stay casual, remain calm and see what happens.
I was in love with my best friend of 4 years and she used to cuddle me and be really intimate with me....even though she told me she was straight. I was cuddling her one day and she moved in closer and closer and then kissed me. we had a really amazing 7 month relationship after that...however, i must warn you that we did break up because she wasnt ready to admit that she was gay and ive now lost her as my best friend. she broke my heart and now we dont talk. You should really consider whether you would be willing to risk losing her as a friend if a relationship went wrong.
i hope this advice helps! i know its so confusing. best of luck and let us know how you get on xxx
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (6 February 2010):
 Not to be akward but i disagree with the others. i think you should try and talk to her, not in a full on in your face kind of way, maybe just start by talking about your sexuality and how she feels about it and then try and bring the conversation roundn to her, i know she is your best friend and this maybe hard but if you have cared for her for this long and she may feel the same isnt it worth just one try toi find out?feel free to tell me how things go whatever you decided to do and good luck X
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 February 2010):
 She's straight (or trying to be straight) you are gay..there is nothing more to the story. Move on,and find yourself someone who is available. Don't continue to allow her to step over the bounds of friendship. I think she's playing games with you, tempting you with something you can never have. Draw back and protect your heart a little, at the moment your heart is on your sleeve, she sees that and therefore can play with it.
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