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writes: hi, im chelsea...i want to know how to find the right guy...how do i know if hes perfect for me...also how do i get my mom to let me go on a date with a boy..im 14,i should be aloud to go on dates so i need advice on how to find the right guy and how to let my mom go on a date....help!!! my life is so boring,i need someone in my life..help Reply to this Question
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reader, MeShell +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Hi! ^^ I have no idea if i should reply to this, and whether if i could help. But i can say this. You are young, yes you want a boyfriend meet the right guy. But the right guy is not going to just pop up right in front of you, you have to put in effort. I believe from my own experiences its better to just make friends with guys first, and then try to look for something more. And your mom....If she doesn't approve of dating then you have to either make a deal with her to get an okay on dating. And dating is not all that it's cooked up to be. It's embarrassing and kind of confusing. And don't go behind your moms back on dating, be open with her. Going behind her back will just create problems for in the future. Maybe you need to wait until you are older to start dating. I'm 17 and I tried dating out once in my life and let me tell you...it was not all fun like everyone says. But everyone is different, I can be wrong. But, i thought that any opinion would be okay, other than none. My advice is just advice, you can choose to use it or not. :)
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Hi sweetie. :-) It's completely normal to be yearning for a boyfriend and the opportunity to date at your age, but you mustn't forget that a boy is not the absolute way to find happiness in this world. You have your entire life ahead of you to worry about finding the "right" guy. Be a kid and enjoy yourself, first! Surround yourself with good friends and loving family members. Perhaps, take up a new hobby or join an extracurricular, sport, or club. These lead to lasting memories, lots of happiness, and a less boring day to day life. It's also important for a girl your age to remember that dating is something special and not as casual as our culture likes to project. Wait to date someone you really like and take it slow. The best relationships stem from the best friendships. My first love was my best friend, Steve, of two years! Don't settle for just anyone!Talk to your Mom about how you feel, Chelsea. Let her know that having a boyfriend is becoming important to you and you want to discuss the rules. If you are open, honest, and polite, your Mom will appreciate it. Always remember that your Mom is looking out for you and only wants what is best. If she refuses to let you date, then perhaps you should heed her advice and focus on other things. Focus on your grades and your other hobbies and interests. If you show responsibility and growth around the house and while at school, she will realize your maturity and be more willing to allow you to make more grown up decisions. Best of luck, dear Chelsea, and remember to be a kid!
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