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writes:Ok so i'm 14, and i just found out im pregnant. No body knows yet i definatly don't want to get rid of it but i know my mum she will try and make me if i tell her! And i can't tell my boy friend because i don't know how he will react i'm not sayin im the most matture person but he's a bit immature i don't think he's ready to be a daddy I am so scared i don't know whate to do please someone help me!
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reader, Main Man +, writes (11 May 2009):
 You need to tell your mother that your pregnant. Because the longer you leave it the more obvious it will become with lump in in tummy sticking out. You also need to tell your boyfriend because he will need to give youthe support you need when you finally tell your mother.
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reader, im_a_dummy  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 hey hun, i am 15 and about 7 months pregnant now. I was thinking just like you, i didnt wanna tell anyone, but i did tell my bf, and we talked and wat not and i ended up telling my mom, and yes she was disappointed in me, but she wasnt as upset as i imagined, she handled it very well i thought. If you are really truely scared and dont want to tell your mom you MIGHT be pregnant, find out for sure. go to the doctor, find a free clinic. make sure is 100% then tell your mom. have a girlfriend go with you, or a sister, or someone you can REALLY trust if you are too afraid to tell your bf, but i think your bf should know, it is his kid and your mother should know. best of luck to you!!!
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reader, mizz rodriguez +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Hi well i am 14 to!!and i know how u feel well i might be pregnant dont know yet!!!but i think its best to tell ur mom yea she will be upset but she will come around trust me!!!i had to tell my mom the same thing!!!! first i think u should tell ur boyfriend so that way u guys can both talk about it!!! my mom tried talking to me sayin if i am pregnant she wants me get rid of it but my boyfriends parents totally want me to through wit it if i am!!!well hope i helped a bit!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): Your mother will find out eventually, so if you think you are mature enough to handle a child then you need to be mature enough about it to tell her. Likewise, the father needs to know immediately - this is as much his as it is yours and he has the right to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): You need to sit you're boyfriend down and see how he feels about it. If he suggests abortion, then you simply tell him that it's not an option for you. That way you'll know where you stand with him. If he's going to support you then you might want to approach your mother together.
I found, from experience, that if a parent knows that you are ready to admit that you've made a mistake then they're more willing to help you with a solution. You need to tell your mother that an abortion is not an option for you. Tell her exactly what you would like to do, whether it's raising the baby with her support or giving it up for adoption. Explain that your ready to take responsibility for your actions and what's done is done but you still need her. She'll definatley need time to absorb this and you need to also be understanding. I guarantee you that she never thought her 14 year old was already sexually active.
Your going to have to be mature about this situation and decide what's best for you and your baby. Just stay strong and try not to stress too much because it'll put strain on you and your baby.
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reader, theocm +, writes (5 January 2009):
 i know you said you dont want to tell your mom, but you should. i know you admit to not being very mature, and thats not a bad thing, you are still developing, you have many life experiences ahead of you. i am sorry you are in this situation, but this is a time to come forward, especially since you think you may want to keep it. its not easy one bit! children are full time, are you prepared to forgo dating? freedom to go out to enjoy activities with your friends? if you made the desicion to have sex, you need to step up and be honest. regardless of keeping the child, you will need prenatal care. please take care, im sorry its not the answer you were looking for, but its the only one that will help- thus why everyone else has said here- please tell your mom!
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Know, you could ruin this childs life and your own. Chirldren are hard to take care of, and you wont be able to balence school and the baby. And what if you cant support the baby and you still have it? It could suffer mentally by having a teen age mother.
You need to make sure your boy friend will stay with you to help support it.
only keep it if you are sure you are willing to put your absoulute best forth to help this baby.
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reader, texangirl +, writes (5 January 2009):
take a deep breath. your mom is going to find out. trust me the sooner you tell the sooner you can start the next steps in the process of being a mom yourself. you are gonna need all the help you can get trying figure all of this out. She is going to be mad but she won't make you do anything. Just tell her and try to take care of yourself.
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reader, Blackjack57 +, writes (5 January 2009):
TELL YOUR MOTHER, and let her know how you feel. Remind her that the baby is her grandchild. The boyfriend will either step up or run. The only thing that really matters here is the child. I was 15 when I got married if that helps any and had 2 boys, if that helps any.
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reader, MichaelS2 +, writes (5 January 2009):
 You need to tell your family as well as your boyfriend!You will eventually begin to show and won't be able to hide it anymore!
Also the earlier you tell your family and boyfriend the sooner you can come to a decision on what to do when the baby is born!
You say he's immature,Than you probably shouldn't of had sex with him!I'm not trying to be mean but you should of been more careful
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Wow! Another case of teen pregnancy.
As far as maturity level, no one is mature in this situation. You don't think he's ready to be a daddy? That's a little too late for that.
Sooner or later, you're going to have to say something to your mother, your father and the daddy.
This is one of the biggest fear for female teens...teen pregnancy.
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reader, chrissa +, writes (5 January 2009):
im 22 have 1 daughter and find it hard. it is hard but right now if your confident you would like to keep this child then what you need is support. You need to be fair to yourself and everybody else around you and tell the people close to you, firstly your boyfriend, if he doesnt approve keep talkin till you agree if he refuses to come to an agreement thats his problem he helped you get pregnant it takes two. You really need to tell your mum or if you really are so feared the tell a grandma or aunt somebody needs to help you, you definately cant do this alone, but remember your mum has to know one day so is it not better sooner rather than later, that way she has a while to get used to the idea discuss your options and help you through this hard time because it is hard especially at your age. A Girls best friend is her mum she needs to know sweet heart shes been through it she gave birth to you dont forget, every body makes mistakes. Just take a step back though im not trying to scare you but it is hard GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
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reader, MichaelS2 +, writes (5 January 2009):
Not to be critical or sound mean but this is one reason why girls should wait until their a little older to have sex.
You need to talk with your mom about it!You also have to talk to your boyfriend.You will begin to show and eventually won't be able to hide it!
Your mom will probably be upset,but will want to help you.
Your best solution maybe to put the child up for adoption or you may even keep the child and raise him/her with your families help.
However you do need to talk to your family and your boyfriend.
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