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writes:hi I'm 13 and pregnant, I'm scared, dunno what to do and not sure who the dad is! Only my best friend knows, not sure what to do... its been 2 months now I'm scared HELPPPP
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is exactly why immature minors shouldn't have sex. Tell your parents, they're gonna find out sooner or later, you know when you give birth in the kitchen or something.
But really best of luck to you and your baby xx
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reader, blondie1988 +, writes (30 November 2010):
Ah congrats for keeping him\her. My friend at school had her daughter at 14 and she's the best mum..
Good luck. P.s tell Ur parents b4 they find out..
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 If you want to have an abortion on the NHS, you might find it beneficial to discuss options with a health professional. You will need a referral from two doctors who have to agree that the requirements of the Abortion Act 1967 have been met.
Usually, the first doctor is your GP and the second is a doctor who works at the hospital or clinic where the abortion will take place.
If you do not want to ask your GP to refer you for an abortion, you can go to your local family planning clinic or genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinic. Some doctors at these clinics can refer women for an NHS abortion, but if they cannot, they must refer you to another doctor.
The law states that a doctor can refuse to certify a woman for an abortion if they have a moral objection to abortion. If this is the case, they should recommend another doctor who is willing to help.
In some areas, women are able to refer themselves to the local Pregnancy Advisory Service, without first getting a referral from a local doctor. It does, however, help to talk to other health professionals such as your GP or contraception clinic nurse as well. You can self-refer for an NHS-funded abortion by calling the BPAS Actionline 08457 30 40 30.
Funding of NHS abortion services differs in various parts of the country. The level of NHS provision ranges from more than 90% of local demand to less than 60%.
In some areas, the NHS will pay for abortions at private clinics, but in other areas you may need to pay for an abortion in a private clinic.
The poster is under 16-17 the legal age to consent to NHS. Children who are under 16 years old can consent to their own treatment if it is thought that they have enough intelligence, competence and understanding to fully appreciate what is involved in their treatment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): get an abortion, Is abortion free?
'The majority of abortions are free, done on the NHS. In a few areas the NHS may not pay for all abortions. If you go private, you can expect to pay around £400 for an early pregnancy abortion. '
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 November 2010):
For Britain, you have until the 18th week to have an abortion that's for the approved methods. Obviously the sooner the better..
Now, if your thinking abortion..they are costly so are you going to pay for it? They're not free. Also the age is 16, however if you are under 16 it's the doctor's decision. If they feel you are mature enough to make that decision then they will perform the abortion. I highly doubt you're mature enough to make that decision on your own, a doctor is going to make the same conclusion.
TELL YOUR PARENTS, for the last time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): What is your family circumstance? Who are you living with? Who is your guardian? Are you in care or a foster home or something?
You have to get this sorted with whoever the adult is that is taking care of you.
You're three months in, this means an abortion is no longer an option. You need to go a trusted adult, or go back to your father and get him to bring you to a doctor. No more delays, no more panic, no more worrying about who the father is. Just get this done lozzada, this is very important. 3 months and you haven't been to see a doctor.
Without immediate medical care and supervision things might go very wrong for you. Stop pissing about and do it!
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (29 November 2010):
Maybe you should tell your parents.. They are the only ones that could help you... It will be hard for you to do that and there might be an arguement, but they care for you so they will do what ever is best for you... However, if you want to keep the baby; which i dont think you should do: dont let them pressure you into aborting it.. Do what you tink is best sweetie.. I hope i helped hunnie xxxx
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 November 2010):
We just told you what to do OP, you're a minor and in your parents care. How do you know how far along you are, you don't know who the father is, and you haven't received any prenatal care? You HAVE to tell them your are pregnant! What about your mother? No one on this website can tell you what you think you're supposed to do, it's your choice..You have to decide that for yourself, and the only ones that have a right to help you in that are your parents. You made the choice of being irresponsible and having sex, now you have the big adult responsibility of being pregnant. Now take the responsible action of telling your parents instead of floundering around not knowing what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Hi lozzada, no one here can help you with that kind of decision only your parents. Have you spoken to them yet?
I didn't mean to freak you out but I was serious. You have to go see a doctor with your parents. That's the only way to put your mind at ease. You can decide on your options with them. But you must do that immediately.
Please go tell your parents and get the ball rolling, if an abortion is something you're considering then you need to talk them now, there is a time limit on when you can have one and you're getting close to that limit.
Please just ignore everything else, stop trying to make decisions or get us to make them for you. The most important decision you have to make now for you and the baby is to tell your parents and go to the doctor. Forget about everything else up until you have done that.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 def tell your parents, or a close family member (adult) that can help you. They may be disappointed in you to start with but you need help dealing with this. You are too young to raise a baby by yourself, but maybe you could give it up for adoption to someone who is unable to have children. But right now, you must seek adult help and get to a doctor.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 November 2010):
No one can answer that question for you, it's your decision. That's why you need to tell your parents right away so they can discuss your options and help you make the right decision for you.
No where in Cerebus's did he say he thinks you should get an abortion. He is concerned that you are 2 months along have not received any prenatal care at all...nor are you fully aware of your options. TELL YOUR PARENTS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Cerberus ,,,, your comment really scared me,,, do you think i should have an abortion ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): thank you soo much for your help everyone ,
and 2 boys
should i have an abortion or keep it advice pleasee xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): You need to tell your parents or an adult you can trust. Don't let this go on any longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Well, you knew enough to get pregnant, didn't you? And by multiple boys.
Do you even know who they were - names, etc?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): first of all you need to tell your parents the worst they can do is ground you or something. Also it worry me you dont know who the father is.
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reader, PurityChild +, writes (27 November 2010):
 You need to let your parents know about this and after that they can tell you what to do next. Dont try an take this into your own hands because it can get out of hand reallt quick. TELL YOUR PARENTS!
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reader, alice0110 +, writes (27 November 2010):
the best thing to do is tell an adult. this just needs to be someone you trust. maybe a teacher, family member, family friend? then you need to sit down and seriously think it over, but you must tell someone other than your friend
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 Honey, look, right now it doesn't matter who the father is or any of that. You're young and in a very tough situation. I know you're scared and feeling like your world has ended but, it hasn't. It's important that you tell your parents, they may get mad, tell you they're dissapointed but in the end, they are the people who love you the most and they are the people who will always be there for you. It might help the tell the one parent whose more easy-going, who you talk to more etc. first. Or if you have an aunt or other older relative you're very close to, you can tell them and they can help you break the news. Please, don't put this off. Don't go through this alone. Your options become less the longer you wait and at your age especially, you need to see a doctor as soon as possible. In the future, I hope you're more careful about these things. As you're now finding out, sex is not a game. Always be safe, always give yourself the proper respect. Be strong and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): You need to tell your parents. no offence but judging by pregnant at 13 would your parents even be there for you? If your parents aren't around you need to go to a family close tO you or a guardian or a family planning centre.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): You need to tell your parents. no offence but judging by pregnant at 13 would your parents even be there for you? If your parents aren't around you need to go to a family
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Not to disagree with you aunt honesty, but the first thing she should do is tell her parents and as soon as possible. They will take you straight to the doctor. Don't worry about anything else for the moment. As soon as you read this go talk to them.
Don't be afraid, don't worry about who the father is, just go tell them. They will help you figure everything out. Let me make this clear to you, you MUST go tell them now. You are at a crucial stage in your pregnancy and because of your age you have to go seek medical advice tomorrow. To ensure your own well being. Your parents have to know and they need to know now you really should be more afraid of not telling them, because a lot can go wrong being pregnant at your age, if they don't know what's wrong with then bad things can happen health wise.
You can't go to the doctor without your parents in the UK at your age, you have to be accompanied.
Go talk to them now. I hope everything works out for you.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (27 November 2010):
You're probably NOT going to like this... but The only real thing that you can/should do... is talk to your parents. Even if they get VERY upset they are the only ones who are actually in a position to be able to help you.
Good Luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 Ok first of you need to go and see a doctor and get a check up to make sure that everything is ok with the baby and then you need to work out your dates and see who could be the potential dad, how many boys have you had intercourse with without using protection and try and think of the dates. You need to tell an adult that you trust this could be a parent or a teacher. But you need to go to a doctor first, i no that it is scary but the doctor will be able to give you advice on what to do. So make an appointement asap. Take your best friend with you if it will help. Goodluck.
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