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writes:Hi there everyone. I haven't posted on here for quite a long time, so I apologise if I'm a bit rusty.To make a long story short, I'll just say my family is unstable to the point where they can hardly take care of me in the basic sense. I have been in a relationship with, oh let's call him Bobby, for nearly a year. Bobby hates how awful my family life is and makes sure I'm okay all the time. I love him with all of my heart for being so understanding.But Bobby, trying to be helpful, wants us to move in together. I am just about to get a job and he just got his, so.I don't want to go somewhere already being broke. On top of that, I'm only seventeen and he's eightteen, I don't want to rush into anything. His friend and his friend's girlfriend are the same ages as us and they live together happily, but I'm just uncertain. The idea of seeimg him more is womderful, but I don't want to bring finances into our relationship and end up hating each other like my parents did and continue to do. I want to marry Bobby someday, but I don't want to rush.What should I do? Thanks in advance.fornresponses. Reply to this Question
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (27 June 2012):
MissTellAll is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've talked to him about it some more and I think he is agreeing with me more now. Thanks to all of you for your reassurance and advice. I truly do appreciate it!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 June 2012):
 if you don't want to do it (and you are right not to do it at such a young age) then tell him you want to wait.
if he can't accept that answer then he really is all about himself... not your comfort.
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reader, Abisa  +, writes (26 June 2012):
Yah your case is tricky. Do what your heart is saying. You are right on avoiding early marrige as most people suffer from it. If you want to marry her in future explain to him why you want that-avoid pregnancy if posible abstain as it can force you into an early marriage. Communication is important as it reduces problems. Communicate effectively on everything.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (26 June 2012):
 If you are uncomfortable you need to tell him. These reasons are perfectly understandable so do not be afraid of telling him that you need to wait a little longer just you you can both be sure of things.
The relationship your friends have is not the same as yours and so it is unwise to assume you two will be happy just because they are happy. You are right in being uncertain. Take care of your finances so you can take that next step without doubt.
I hope that helps.
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