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writes: So over the past week I have been hanging out a lot with my best friend. But not like friends. We have been having sex with each other. She and I have known each other for about 4 yrs and never did any of this til recently. I like it and don't wanna stop but does this constitute as dating? We both have thought about what it would be like to go out on a date date but we r both nervous also to the idea of it. I am 20 and she is 19. How do you get past that fear of being in public?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo thanks all for advising me on this matter. I did have a conversation with my friend last night. We are both nervous of the fact of dating each other. And we both like what we do behind close doors. We are going to keep it like we already are and just continue having fun and not try to be a couple yet. We are both a little uneasy about that part.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 If you two like each other, then go for it! Don't stop yourselves from doing anything because you are afraid. You may regret it later in life. At the same time, don't take it so serious. You two are friends and you've always hung around with each other. No pressure. Just enjoy each other.
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reader, almc  +, writes (24 August 2010):
A lot these days, no one really cares who your sleeping with. Just have fun and enjoy life, don't worry about what other people have to say :)
As for if your dating....
You guys are going to have to talk about it, if you guys only want to see each other, or if your open to see other people too, just have a nice long talk.
Hope everything works out for you guys.
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Depending on the part of the country you live in most people don't see it as a huge deal since it's so common. However I wouldn't call it dating just because you're having sex. You need to have a conversation with her just to see if you're both on the same page. If you are then damn what other people think!!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Well, you don't really have anything to fear in public. Most people will not notice a difference since you probably went out together before you started having a sexual relationship.
Does it constitute dating?
That's tough to answer. Really that lies in how you define your relationship. I usually say that when sex is involved, you're dating, but then again if it is purely casual, or a FWB, then it all boils down to how you define your relationship.
Talk about it and decide how you both want to address this going forward.
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