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writes:Dear cupid,I have been seeing this girl for 2 years now, due to various reasons we cant quite cohabit now, and she needs to move into the city where I live coz she has to finish off her last credits at UNI (where she lived on Uni campus for the past 4 years). I am a bit perturbed by the fact that she chose to share a flat with one her mates and another guy (male). His presence threatens me, although she tells me that its the only solution to her accommodation dilemma. Am I being petty? Please helpRegards,Worried and anxious Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks,
A huge weight off my shoulders. I never quite looked at it that way.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (12 July 2007):
Hi,
When I was a student, quite a few people were in mixed-sex flats. I don’t remember anyone getting off with someone they were sharing with. Like AskEve says, they are more likely to be irritating than attractive. Some people became friends, some couldn’t wait to move out. But there isn’t much romance in smelly socks, bags under the eyes in the mornings, and someone else’s greasy dinner plate left in the sink. I don’t think you need to worry.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (12 July 2007):
 Do you trust your girlfriend? Has she ever cheated on you before? You're just feeling a bit insecure because she's away from you at the moment. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. If she was sharing with him only then it might be different but there is another girl sharing too so I wouldn't worry too much here. You've been going out with her long enough to know whether or not she'd be faithful to you or not. Try not to get too jealous about it, let her see you trust her, it's only for a little while. She'll probably be telling you how annoying he is before long!!
Eve
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reader, Tipster  +, writes (11 July 2007):
No need to worry just yet mateI had a similar issue with my girlfriend. She needed to rent out the extra room in her house and decided to let a guy friend move in. I was a little fearful of this at first, thinking it would probably be convenient for her to just wander into his room after a drunken night. But, you know how roommates work, after about a week you start to notice all of the annoying habits they have (unpaid bills, not cleaning up the kitchen, smelling up the bathroom, being loud while your sleeping, etc.) It wasn't before too long that they hardly wanted to even cross paths.There was absolutely no way they would ever hook up and just the thought of it makes her laugh.
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