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writes:Does anyone else find that whenever anyone does anything wrong they can't forgive them very easily? It's like whenever anyone's done anything wrong in a relationship I can't forgive them all I can do is keep moaning and going on about it. I am so stubborn in my ways, it's horrible :( Reply to this Question
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reader, shazz1991xoxo +, writes (22 March 2012):
 I don't really have advice for you sweety but can just say to you i am the exact same, i feel horrible about it aswell xoxo
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 That you may forgive but not allow. That is not acceptable.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Forgiving is not a good thing in my experience. Too many people see it as an invitation to treat you like a mug. Why should you forgive and let people off the hook so easy when they are the ones that messed up? You forgive when you are good and ready. If the other person can't be bothered to work at gaining your forgiveness then they 'ain worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): If you do not forgive it will destroy you as a person self destruction is pointless
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend getting off on other people, masturbating to porn and trying to persuade me to let him carry on.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (21 March 2012):
Forgiving is great. It means you recognize that everyone is imperfect and may occasionally hurt you, sometimes on purpose, but the person has another chance. Or seventy times seven chances.
Forgiving is also great because it releases you. When you can't let go of what someone did to you, then, in a way, you're still prisoner of that person.
But forgiving is dumb when you do it just for the sake of thinking you're "good" while the other person takes advantage.
When someone wants forgiveness, s/he should also show repentance. Otherwise forgiving is just another way for people to take advantage of you.
What kind of forgiveness are you talking about?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I'm too forgiving for my own good.
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