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writes:I met this guy at a nightclub when all my friends were busy dancing etc. He approached me as he saw that I was on my own and I liked him so agreed to dance. I try to be subtle and genuine with people. He is currently working in the auto industry in a rural area outside out city so Is he just desparate as he has no exposure to women (vs if he was in college or working in the city itself)or does he really like me?What are the key indicators?Background Info:We had great chemistry and we danced really closely- more sensual with a little grinding from him but lots of touching hands. He was also smelling my hair, kissing my neck etc didn't try to make out but did try reaching a little lower on the hips once - I gently pushed him away.Mostly we were dancing with my back to his front. When I turned to face him, he was neutral about it so I faced my back to him again. He didn't make much eye contact. We talked alot about his college, job, hometown and mine, common interests in music etc. We kept agreeing how great the DJ was.At the end He’s like “Come here give me a hug, hit me up sometime, you have my info. We could go see a movie or something” I'd love to get advice on next steps. I really liked him and it doesn't happen often but probably wouldn't contact him if it seems he just wants sex.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 December 2013):
 Easy. He will do much more for you than mainly just want sex.
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (21 December 2013):
Every guy would like sex on the first meet(genetic conditioning).Get to know about him first,if he's interested in you as a person he'll wait.On the other hand you may have nothing in common and then you'll be glad you didn't have sex with him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 December 2013):
 You can't go by one evening at a night club. People are often more "courageous" and "flirty" in the dark and after a drink or two.
Set up a date, see how he is in the day light. MAKE it a public date, no going home to either place. If you still feel a connection, go for more dates (again in public). Like others mentioned HAVE a way home, bring money and tell someone where you are going and with whom.
The kind of job he hold has no meaning when it comes to what a man likes in a woman. Obviously he liked SOMETHING about you and approached you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 December 2013):
 You can't from just the one night in the club. If you're interested contact him and see what happens and keep sex off the table until there is some kind of commitment (i.e. exclusive dating).
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2013): Let him call you.
The Way he acted in a beginning is normal, it was night club,probably he was drinking. What happens later is up to you. Just remember, EVERY man wants sex, and in a beginning this is all they want. That's why a certain period of time needed to get to know him. When people say don't give out to soon, meaning you will look easy to him, I don't believe in it.
I am for giving it more time for only reason is to see his intentions. And what kind of person he is. I used to sleep with guys fast, some became my boyfriends, some didn't. Or we started dating and then I didn't like the guy. It was not about sleeping with him fast initially, it is about giving more time to yourself to see if you even like him and what kindof a person heis, so later you won't have any regrets.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (21 December 2013):
The only way to tell is to see how he acts with you. I'd never have sex with someone who I wasn't in a relationship with (ie it's been discussed that we're both into each other and are going to be exclusive), so if he's happy to get to that stage before things turn sexual then it's a good sign. A guy who just wants sex will usually give up way before that stage, after trying to get you round to his and regularly turning the conversation to sexual topics. However, make sure you don't tell a guy that you need to be in a relationship first as that can turn it into a challenge and they might just tell you what you want to hear to get you to sleep with them. Instead, say you won't have sex until you know someone well and have built up a connection. That should weed out the ones who are only after one thing.
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