Do men want kids as much as women? Can men have a strong desire for children?
Q. Is a man's desire to have kids as strong as a woman' s? Obviously this requires a bit of generalisation - there are plenty of women that don't want kids, and plenty of men that do - but are men generally a bit more ambivalent towards kids?...
A. 31 May 2015: I think that they probably do, although it's a shame that there isn't a more dependable way at the outset of a relationship of bringing men and women who feel the same toward having or not having children together. (It seems to me that that issue ... (read in full...)
I want my sex life back!
Q. Hi everyone. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years. We've always had a good sex life and if I'm honest I've never been able to keep up with my boyfriends sex drive. It used to really irritate me that I couldn't take a shower, g...
A. 19 April 2015: It seems to me that you want your old sex life back, but only if it can be on your terms. Considering the described circumstances of the situation, and if you were truly as desperate as you sound, the LAST thing that you should have done was to ... (read in full...)
He's a lovely man but moving fast and I haven't had the "He's the one moment!:" yet
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I'm seeking some advice. I've started a relationship with a lovely man after a long history of really rubbish relationships, one of which was emotionally abusive. We've only been together one month. He is kind, attentive,...
A. 23 March 2015: I'm not saying that you shouldn't slow things down and get to know this guy better. But, speaking from my male perspective, nothing struck me as more nonsensical when I was dating than unmarried couples who could remain with each other for a long ... (read in full...)
I don't think I am that much in love with him. Is it key to a happy marriage to be absolutely in love with your future spouse?
Q. The story of my life is that never ever a man who I was in love with and adored was in love with me back. Every time something starts and I feel incredibly in love, after awhile an interest in me fades. My boyfriend is a very nice man. He has...
A. 9 October 2014: I got married at age 32 to a woman with whom I became acquainted through correspondence, and whom I first met in person two weeks before our wedding. Before being married, there were multiple women with whom I had had face-to-face relationships; to ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble accepting her story about this "friend"
Q. Hi. I have a situation where I need an objective opinion before I act with too much haste and ruin everything. I have been with my fiancée for a little over two years now and I thought everything was going great up until about a week ago. S...
A. 3 November 2013: I would have trouble accepting her explanation, also. Maybe a female can offer a plausible rationale for your fiancée's behavior, but, to my male eyes, there is (or has been) something illicit going on. If there weren't, there wouldn't be the ... (read in full...)
Should I feel this guilty about not being a virgin anymore? I'm 23 and I've slept with one person!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, You all have given me great advice in the past, and I'm hoping you can help me again. I've been struggling with feelings of guilt over not being a virgin anymore. I'm 23 and I slept with my last (and only) boyfriend. In th...
A. 31 October 2013: From my own male perspective, I don't think that I would ever have regarded that as a deal breaker, and especially so by the time that I was your age. I had already seen too much sexual activity (both second-hand and affecting relationships in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said "I love you" so quickly! How long does it take for them to know they're in love?
Q. I'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He told me he loved me for the first time very early in our relationship (2 weeks) and it kinda freaked me out how early he said that. For a while I just wouldn't say it back ...
A. 30 October 2013: I agree that it's possible (especially for those younger or less mature) to throw the word "love" around with no real appreciation of its full meaning, but I also believe that lasting love is fundamentally a matter of conscious choice (rather than ... (read in full...)
All I want is to feel desired and appreciated, the way I make her feel
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem with my girlfriend. I feel really under appreciated and unimportant. She cancels plans last minute and when I get upset and express it, she makes me feel needy and stupid for caring. So then I hold it in, which makes me ...
A. 23 October 2013: If you'll pardon me for asking, from the way you describe the situation, in what sense is this woman your girlfriend? To me, that term implies at least some degree of reciprocity as far as feelings go. From your narrative, I'm not seeing that at ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to go on dates with more than one guy?
Q. Dear agonyaunts, I am 27 and most friends my age are either married or in stable relationships. I have had two unsuccessful long-distance relationships and I am seriously trying to find a guy who is a good match and is worth sharing a life with. ...
A. 22 October 2013: Thank you for your response. I must be (or have been, when I was dating) a very atypical male. It would never even have occurred to me to want to break up with a woman because she made it "effortless" for me to date her (as long as she was not ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to go on dates with more than one guy?
Q. Dear agonyaunts, I am 27 and most friends my age are either married or in stable relationships. I have had two unsuccessful long-distance relationships and I am seriously trying to find a guy who is a good match and is worth sharing a life with. ...
A. 22 October 2013: Sorry to answer a question with a question, but how or why did you feel that it wasn't working out with the other guys you dated? I was always a monogamous, one-woman-at-a-time guy by nature when I was dating, and I would have given anything to ... (read in full...)
I can't get my girlfriends past sex life out my head
Q. Hi - hope you can help. Have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 months and just found out that she has been a lot more sexually active than I - sleeping with at least 14 different partners (she is 32). I think this is a lot personally, I am ...
A. 15 October 2013: This poster sounds like me at the same point in life. When I was 25, a divorced 33-year-old woman whom I had first met while singing with her in the choir of the church that we both attended, as well as through seeing her at lunch every weekday ... (read in full...)
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