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I'm a girl who'd rather watch tv than have sex. How do I get him to be passionate???

Q.   my bf and I have been dating for 3 years. Lately I'd rather watch tv than have sex. He's the one who says he wants to do it, but he expects me to instigate it since he pays the rent. I want music in the background and he could care less. How do I ...

A.   4 January 2011: thanks.... (read in full...)

He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.

Q.   My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...

A.   4 January 2011: Thank you for all the helpful advice. I dunno. He does work full time and I think he does want to do it but he gets lazy. I work part time but do all the cleaning, laundry, cooking etc. For a time he did expect me to instigate it every time because ... (read in full...)

Almost 14 and no relationship experience yet

Q.   I'm 13, 14 in January, and I've never had a relationship. I've never kissed anyone either. All my friends have at least kissed one, and most of my friends are in relationships and are really happy. Is this honestly normal for me to be nearly 14 and ...

A.   27 December 2010: I wasn't in a relationship til 10th grade. Normal is what feels right to you. Don't rush something just cuz your friends are doing it. It'll happen when the right time comes.... (read in full...)

What men think 30 Sec after ejaculation and how it can affect you

Q.   The late great comedian Richard Pryor during his stand-up routine used to joke that directly before a man achieved orgasm you could ask and receive anything from him. Want to get married? This is the time to ask. Need a new car? This is the time to ...

A.   16 November 2010: good to know :)... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't seem to care! What should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend doesnt want to change as in i asked him to be nicer, to pay more attention to me and to be more loving, and he just tells me he dont know if he can? so now i told him i will not go to his house or see him but he really doesnt seem 2 ...

A.   16 November 2010: It doesn't sound like he really cares. My bf get annoyed when I'm emotional and calls me "emo" which is frustrating to me like hell. Why does yours get mad when you cry? Sounds like a jerky thing to do.... (read in full...)

This toxic relationship with him is exhausting..but I love him! What can I do?

Q.   I've been with this guy for almost two years. When I first met him, we were perfect together. I am usually friends with a guy first before I go out with them, but this guy we just jumped right into out relationship as soon as we met. By one month, ...

A.   16 November 2010: Dang! That sounds exhausting! I'm kinda in that boat because I have been w my bf for 3 yrs and we started living together soon after we met too. We had valcano like fights as well. And the whole mean sweet thing..i get that. I think though if you ... (read in full...)

I'm a girl who'd rather watch tv than have sex. How do I get him to be passionate???

Q.   my bf and I have been dating for 3 years. Lately I'd rather watch tv than have sex. He's the one who says he wants to do it, but he expects me to instigate it since he pays the rent. I want music in the background and he could care less. How do I ...

A.   16 November 2010: Thanks for the advice. Yea I'm sure he just wants to feel like he's not doin all the work, but I think sex should be separate. I work too and pay he utilities, do the laundry, dishes and cook. Sex should be both of us. I think after a while there's ... (read in full...)

How can you nicely tell someone they are unattractive naked and a lousy lover?

Q.   I am now engaged in a sex-free relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and we probably have sex about once a month. We are both in our twenties. The thing is, I am not attracted to him anymore. I feel superficial because it has t...

A.   14 November 2010: my bf says that too and expects me to initiate it. How do you get someone to start trying? To be passionate?... (read in full...)

Have I put him in a cage?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had a rocky first year to our relationship where he screwed me over and lied about meeting up with his ex girlfriend. Since then he's worked so hard to regain my trust. However he's stopped seeing his female friends on a one to ...

A.   14 November 2010: Don't feel bad. They need to have boundaries. My bf says he used to have more female friends than guys but I'm not ok with him hanging out with any girls. He texts them, but that's all. And that'd about all I can stand... (read in full...)

Does anyone else's boyfriend jump after sex and are ready to engage in the next activity?

Q.   Does anyone else get upset when your boyfriend/girlfriend after a mind blowing love making session jumps (without any kind of cuddling or talk) to wanting to do something else. Like having friends come over or going to a bar with friends?...

A.   14 November 2010: lol I have to tell mine to kiss me afterwards and then yep up and clean and onto what evers next.... (read in full...)

Have I put him in a cage?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had a rocky first year to our relationship where he screwed me over and lied about meeting up with his ex girlfriend. Since then he's worked so hard to regain my trust. However he's stopped seeing his female friends on a one to ...

A.   14 November 2010: Don't feel bad. They need to have boundaries. My bf says he used to have more female friends than guys but I'm not ok with him hanging out with any girls. He texts them, but that's all. And that'd about all I can stand... (read in full...)

Partner is very disagreeable and turns it around and then says I'm moody!

Q.   Hi I've been with my partner for nearly 5 years now not sure to leave him we have a child together too, his a bully but nice to others. If I answer back to something he says horrible he turns that around to me and days I'm moody! Even work ...

A.   14 November 2010: yea my bf says I'm being emo if I state my feelings. I say...no I'm a human being, I'm a girl, I have emotions. As put by hermoine in harry potter "just because you have the emotional range of a tea spoon". Get a clue and stop calling me emo!... (read in full...)

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