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writes:I've been with this guy for almost two years. When I first met him, we were perfect together. I am usually friends with a guy first before I go out with them, but this guy we just jumped right into out relationship as soon as we met. By one month, we were living together. Then we had our first big fight, and thinking about his previous relationships, i decided to be the dominant one, show him I wouldn't take abuse, and I hit him. He left, and he eventually came back and we stayed together. That sort of relationship went on for four months. But somehow, at the end of the night, when I feel asleep in his arms, I felt safe. He would put his arms around me and i would snuggle up in his chest, and I would feel content. We weren't always fighting but when we did, it was like a volcano erupting. we Had a very toxic relationship. He attempted to cheat on me. I found his emails. I cheated on him for revenge. Then it just happened several times after that because we weren't around each other. We started a long distance relationship but I always ended up cheating on him. Friends of his hinted that he cheated on me too. He's verbally abusive, yet so sweet. At the moment, we're in a long distance relationship. I wish he was right here with me, but he's not. He wants to end it because we're never together. He's my emotional crutch. he's my best friend. I love him with all of my heart, but I really don't know who to handle this whole situation. I'm so tired, but I gave him my whole heart. I need help!
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reader, KitKatsAndInsomnia +, writes (16 November 2010):
Dang! That sounds exhausting! I'm kinda in that boat because I have been w my bf for 3 yrs and we started living together soon after we met too. We had valcano like fights as well. And the whole mean sweet thing..i get that. I think though if you are to a point where you have the chance to move on you should. I know it's like a habit now. You feel omfortable w him. But if there was cheating once, there's never guna be trust again. And if you aren't living together I say go out and try to find a guy who won't be abusive and who all you feel w them is safe. I'm kinda stuck cuz I moved him away from his home town and don't want to leave him, plus were not abusive. But if he was and if he heated I'd be out of here.
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