Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 23 March 2020: Hi All
As promised here is my update:
So we both went to see the counsellor, but not before he had one last ditched attempt to try and get me to cancel it.
Hubby and I had a very open conversation in the morning about his behaviour, I t... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 17 March 2020: Hi All,
Once again thank you for taking the time to reply.
So he has agreed to go and we have a counselling appointment booked for the weekend, I would have wanted one sooner but the therapist I have found is booked up until then.
I hope ... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 16 March 2020: Hi All Once again thank you for all your advice. He seems to think that endless cups of tea and him trying to cuddle me (which I do not want him to do)and going on the charm offensive (too late) will make this all better and go away. So Fr... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 13 March 2020: Hi all So I have come back home and tried to talk with him, he is one obstinate and difficult man, as I write this we are in separate bedrooms. He says that he is disgusted and embarrassed by what he did. He will not admit to being a porn addict... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 11 March 2020: So he messaged me asking me to come home today and I replied that no I will not, I said tomorrow and I mean tomorrow. Then he said that he hopes there will be no talk of us splitting up, and what advice did my sister give to me, and saying yes I... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 10 March 2020: Hi All Thank you all for taking the time to reply, you have all been very very helpful. I did what I said I was going to do, and I left the evidence that I had printed out on the table for him to see when he came home from work. Then I went ... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 6 March 2020: Dear All Thank you all so much for advice, it is helping me to realise the options I have. I will be confronting him over this as I cannot tolerate it much longer, I have been waiting and watching the messages which from him have taken a much mor... (read in full...)
Husband's fascination with another woman upset me. How do I start over after 40 years of marriage?
Q. My husband has been sending private messages to a woman via Facebook. We knows her as she used to date a member of his family a few years ago. She got married to another man and had a child, they have since split up. She has an adult only accou...
A. 4 March 2020: Hi WiseOwlE Thank you for your reply. I have been married to him since I was 18 and am now approaching my 60th birthday. There have been other questionable episodes over the years, like I called him out over him visiting a lap dancing club and ... (read in full...)
His online world has me worried
Q. Hi All My husband is addicted to Facebook, constantly checking his Facebook even when we are out shopping/socialising etc. I have had to accept this and we have had many arguments over it. He does not listen. Recently he has set up an Inst...
A. 18 October 2017: Hi to all you wonderful people who have taken the time to reply. I will read the book by Prof Lundy Bancroft, thank you so much for your insight. I know that I am the only person who can decide on whether or not my marriage continues, it is a d... (read in full...)
His online world has me worried
Q. Hi All My husband is addicted to Facebook, constantly checking his Facebook even when we are out shopping/socialising etc. I have had to accept this and we have had many arguments over it. He does not listen. Recently he has set up an Inst...
A. 17 October 2017: Thank you all so much for giving your opinions on my problem. I have read them all and digested them, they all are so very sensible. I would like to respond to WiseOwlE and answer the questions he raised, good relevant questions I may say, I am kin... (read in full...)
Married for 37 years and fed up with his porn addiction. How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi All I am trying to make sense of discovering my husband has been looking at the x porno site on a daily basis last year. I already know that he has a problem with porn, in so far as it has ruined our sex life, as in we do not have sex, ...
A. 9 August 2016: Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it.
It is strange that you touch on alzheimers, he cannot remember anything already, I always thought that it was the porn and masturbating that did it, you know rubbish in, rubbish out, frazzling his brai... (read in full...)
Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??
Q. I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...
A. 27 January 2016: Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply, it is all good advice. I would not know how to check if he has joined any adult sites, I have access to his emails and there is nothing untoward there, unless of course he has another email address ... (read in full...)
My husband has a strong desire for internet porn!
Q. I have been married for 15 years and I have never stepped outside of my marriage. I do not believe my husband has either. But every once in a while, I have my doubts. My husband has a strong desire for internet porn. He searches for it at least 3-4 ...
A. 12 September 2007: Right it's simple but you have to be strong and really mean it when you say "i have had enough with your porn and now it's over, finished, I am going to seek a divorce" until faced with the ultimatum they will keep on abusing you, and it is abuse, ... (read in full...)
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