Should I give this jerk who dumped me a piece of my mind or not give him the satisfaction?
Q. I would love your opinion about this. I was dumped today by a low life, cheating prick. He came to my house to tell me. I am really upset by not only the fact he did it but by how he did it and how unfeeling and cold he was about it. He came t...
A. 21 June 2013: Hi
Ofcourse your angry, but he at least came and told you face to face, that won't have been easy for him, he's not a coward.
Don't email or phone him. You will regret it when you have calmed down.
Phone a friend, in fact get them all round ... (read in full...)
Should I give my bf time to get over his ex so that he can be happy with me again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and living together a few months now. Start of our relationship was great however I asked too many qn's about his past and ex girlfriends and I found out that there was one girl In particular that hurt ...
A. 21 June 2013: Hi
Stop making him look back, instead look forwards together.
Continue with your therapy and if you feel your going to get paranoid about one of his ex's, count to ten.
You have moved in together pretty fast, before you knew each other that... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 13 June 2013: Hi
Yea the jean 'fittings' are a good guide.
Well done you.
But try to keep the exercise regular, make it same as doing your teeth morning and/or eve. Just get in the habit.... (read in full...)
My husband is jealous of my ex husband and acts foolish
Q. I have two boys from my ex husband he is a good dad provides well for his boys, truck for 16th birthday we didn't pay a penny no insurance, we help when and if he needs some. Child support is paid early...our boys are loved and taken care. We ...
A. 13 June 2013: Hi
Because he's insecure and immature.
You did right, what a pity he spoilt the end of a lovely day with his petty reaction.
Tell him to grow up or ship out... (read in full...)
Husband stays out until 4 am..........and wonders why I am upset about it
Q. My husband went out last night with some work colleagues for a work dinner. He said he would be home in a few hours. Well, he came home at 4 am this morning drunker than a skunk, no keys and lost his $700 cell phone and had the nerve to ask me this ...
A. 13 June 2013: Hi
I find it quite funny am afraid. It's just what some men do, if it was every night or weekend then it's different. He's just letting off steam and I admire his stamina on a week night. Plus if he was that drunk still at 4am its just as well he ... (read in full...)
I'm to blame for the way the relationship ended
Q. Really can't see a light where I am, right 4 yrs ago me and my first love split up. Now we was together for 4 yrs and you tried to do anything for me. And put up with me, grief at home and smoking weed. We never really argued. Now this girl was ...
A. 12 June 2013: Hi
You split up 4 years ago and she has moved on. It happens to us all, splits are rarely one persons fault so don't take the blame, you should just learn from mistakes not punish yourself by dwelling on them.
Sit down, make a list of what you... (read in full...)
Does it look like there's any chance that we'll get back together?
Q. hi, okay, so nearly 4 months ago, me and my girlfriend of 2 years split up. She split up with me, at the time her dad had got into a terrible accident and was in intensive care, and was told that he would be paralysed from the neck down, also she ...
A. 11 June 2013: Hi
Well there you go then, she's made a move, up to you now, be bold!... (read in full...)
Does it look like there's any chance that we'll get back together?
Q. hi, okay, so nearly 4 months ago, me and my girlfriend of 2 years split up. She split up with me, at the time her dad had got into a terrible accident and was in intensive care, and was told that he would be paralysed from the neck down, also she ...
A. 10 June 2013: Hi
When you get home arrange to meet her and talk. It's the only way you will know where you stand. We can't predict how she feels or whether she will want to try again.
If you get a negative response, for your own sake let go and don't contac... (read in full...)
My bf's attention to his ex is hurting me. Am I being unreasonable? Help.
Q. I'm getting really down in the dumps about my boyfriend messaging his ex behind my back all the time. They split up 10 years ago but he speaks to her more than any of his other friends. He knows I find it uncomfortable and its starting to hurt me. ...
A. 10 June 2013: Hi
The fact he vanishes for the weekend is enough to end a relationship with him.
I don't think his ex is a threat but you have every right to be upset by his actions though, he's treating you like an idiot.... (read in full...)
I want to interpret these as positive signals but I have no idea about her sexuality
Q. So, I'm near to the end of my first year at university (my last exam is on the 11th!). It's been a rollercoaster of a year, but I think things are looking up. Here's the thing. For the last six months I've had this crush on a girl, that I've ...
A. 10 June 2013: Hi
Only one way to find out, ask her on a date, or for a coffee or a drink or to share your lunch in the sunshine.
She can either say yes or no, her actions sound positive though.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm out of the loop on his life
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years next month. The problem I have with him is he hardly ever tells me things he is doing and I feel that I am left out of a lot of his life. For example, this weekend I saw him on Friday night when we ...
A. 10 June 2013: Hi
Yea he should really have mentioned he had arranged to go, I take it you didn't contact him over the 2 days either? He probably assumed you were busy too if you didn't.
I can see why your not sure about moving in, this communication bu... (read in full...)
How do I get him to tell his kids that I'm not there to pay their way?
Q. Ok, I have posted about my LDR before and this is kind of a follow up and a question. As I have said before about me not being invited to his house and being the one that is out all the money on dates and weekend trips to visit and I was worried ...
A. 9 June 2013: Hi
He is simply unbelievable. Both his children and yours have had the vacation ruined in one way or another, by him.
I wouldn't even dump him I would just delete, block and forget the user, let him 'wait' for you to visit and wait and wait - ... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy back to his warm usual self?
Q. Hi, need help understanding the male psychology a bit please. There is a guy I met at the pub (35), he was going through divorce and my case is the same. We connected, in his words he was very intrigued by my story and he found me very attractive. ...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi
Like he says - you think too much. If he initiated the coffee meet then he just sees you as a mate. He didn't make a move the night before and made jokes about your ex and sex. He isn't bothered about it, maybe he has sex with his ex. He also ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to tell his kids that I'm not there to pay their way?
Q. Ok, I have posted about my LDR before and this is kind of a follow up and a question. As I have said before about me not being invited to his house and being the one that is out all the money on dates and weekend trips to visit and I was worried ...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi
Your head is right. Go.
Your vacation with your children has been spoilt because he is so tight with his finances, assumed you would pay for everything and won't even hold your hand!
What is there to like about him?... (read in full...)
Why doesn't me boyfriend call or text me like before ?
Q. so I've been with my boyfriend 11 months now .. but ! at the last 5 months he stopped calling like he used to before and from maybe 3 weeks now he stopped texting me also unless i text him first .. we started seeing each other from 3 months past eve...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi
Keep your life SO busy that when he does want to see you, you don't have time. Tell him no, sorry but I am free next Saturday so can see you then.
Teach him not to take you for granted.
Let him text you first next time too. If he doe... (read in full...)
Why do a lot of men like slutty-sexual type of women?
Q. Why do a lot of men like slutty-sexual type of women? Is it mostly just a sex thing or do they really care about these girls who are like that? I'm not a very sexual woman at all, and I only bring out that side of me when I'm in a long term relati...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi
Do these so called 'slutty' girls call you an ice maiden or a snob? No probably not, they are too busy enjoying themselves to worry.
If all you do is to get male approval then you need to find other things to pass your time. Most men your ag... (read in full...)
I think our relationship has run its course. Should I just end things?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we lived together for four. I was made redundant at the new year and got a job offer in another part of the country which, after much deliberation, I decided to take. My boyfriend could not leave his ...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi
Break-up for both your sakes.
You have a new life and independence, you don't miss him so set him and you free. Could be he feels the same too.... (read in full...)
Is the amount I'm paying to live with him reasonable?
Q. Ok I live with my boyfriend and id like to know your opinion on the matter of money. We both work for the same company just different departments therefore we both get paid on Fridays. So every Friday I have a standing order of £75 which goes i...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi
Unless you move back home you would be paying about the same in any house-share. If you lived alone you would pay a lot more bills and probably not have much left for clothes etc
If you feel he is profiting unfairly from this arrangement... (read in full...)
He's fathered a New baby, with his new younger wife. So why did he have to show me a photo of the baby?
Q. hi aunts and uncles, its me the older woman dumped for the 24 year old girl who got pregnat by the ex.... im over him, still care about him but have finally come to terms. i went to meet up with him for the alimony payment the other day and what ...
A. 7 June 2013: Hi
He could transfer the Alimony into your account via internet banking, it takes 5 minutes and costs nothing. Or mail the cheque.
You don't need constant reminders about his new life, it's cruel. I would have taken the cheque and remarked how... (read in full...)
Two vulnerable people meeting on their second date...advice needed please!
Q. Hi cupids! id like some advice on dating please, i met a really nice guy 2 weeks ago, we hit it off right away, we definatly have chemistry! He is a little older than me (10 years older) but for saying that we have the same values , views e...
A. 7 June 2013: Hi
First 2 or 3years is a little age-gap, 10 years is pretty big.
You can't show him in 2 weeks that your loyal and good girlfriend material. It takes time and you barely know him or if he is the victim he says he is.
Just take it slowly, ... (read in full...)
Do I plan a surprise visit for a 7000km long distance relationship for a few weeks?! HELP!
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We have been going out for a year and a half and he's in the uk due to an injury and I am in Canada for Uni. I have summer break from uni for 3 weeks in august. I just came b...
A. 7 June 2013: Hi
Only you know the answer.
If you don't go when will you see him next?
If he isn't working and has injured his knee he has little cash and I assume little mobility so what will you do all day, especially as *you* won't be at his family h... (read in full...)
Can a relationship progress if you see each other only on weekends?
Q. We usually get together Friday evening, spend all day Saturday, and then I go home Sunday afternoon. He's a self-employed lawyer and has had a habit of going into the office Sunday afternoons to prepare for court Monday. (He goes to court Monday ...
A. 7 June 2013: Hi
He's set in his ways after 16 years, used to his own space and routine. Before he met you he probably didn't meet anyone who would be prepared to 'fit in' to his life
What are his plans, do you or he see this relationship leading to marri... (read in full...)
I love him, but hate living with him
Q. Dear Cupid, I hate living with my boyfriend!! HE is a complete slob, and I have to put up with his stuff everywhere....... I dont even have enough space to put my stuff so most is packed away still in boxes. This place is so bad that i am depresse...
A. 7 June 2013: Hi
Actions speak louder than words. Simply move out and take control of your life again... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy back to his warm usual self?
Q. Hi, need help understanding the male psychology a bit please. There is a guy I met at the pub (35), he was going through divorce and my case is the same. We connected, in his words he was very intrigued by my story and he found me very attractive. ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
The pubs not a great place to meet men to be honest, unless you work behind the bar and get to know them slowly.
Its all about being aware, not being easily swayed by men saying the right thing. If a mans interested in a relationship he ... (read in full...)
Our moral values don't match because my girlfriend has no compassion towards suffering.
Q. I had a conversation with my girlfriend today about how I was upset about other people getting unfairly hurt due to no fault of their own, people being homeless and such and she told me that people who care about others are stupid and that people ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
Its a hard one,I think its human nature to care. It doesn't mean you walk round with the weight of the world on your shoulders but to empathise is good. If you raise money doing a walk or run, donate to a charity of choice, its natural,... (read in full...)
Our moral values don't match because my girlfriend has no compassion towards suffering.
Q. I had a conversation with my girlfriend today about how I was upset about other people getting unfairly hurt due to no fault of their own, people being homeless and such and she told me that people who care about others are stupid and that people ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
Its a hard one,I think its human nature to care. It doesn't mean you walk round with the weight of the world on your shoulders but to empathise is good. If you raise money doing a walk or run, donate to a charity of choice, its natural,... (read in full...)
Our moral values don't match because my girlfriend has no compassion towards suffering.
Q. I had a conversation with my girlfriend today about how I was upset about other people getting unfairly hurt due to no fault of their own, people being homeless and such and she told me that people who care about others are stupid and that people ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
Its a hard one,I think its human nature to care. It doesn't mean you walk round with the weight of the world on your shoulders but to empathise is good. If you raise money doing a walk or run, donate to a charity of choice, its natural,... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I'm soon to be single or leave the situation as it is?
Q. Here is my dilemma. There is a guy I have liked for many years until a year ago we worked together and although we never met up outside of work we do touch based by texting every couple of months. We texted a couple of days ago and I asked if he'd ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
Is he married? Is he dating someone? That would make it awkward for him.
I don't think its wise to get too involved with anyone your still married even selling a house can take ages. Wait till your life is in order and your officially singl... (read in full...)
I'm hurting, in our 3 years he's cheated on me more than 5 times! How to prevent him from cheating again?
Q. im currently in a relationship of 3 years and since we have been together my boy friend has cheated on me more than 5 time, and he just repeated now so I just don't know what to do! and he keeps on saying he loves me when I dump him... so how do I ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
Dump his sorry ass if he really loved you he would never cheat.
He is not going to change, ever.
There are plenty others out there for you to date and meet who will treat you as you should be, with respect.... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy back to his warm usual self?
Q. Hi, need help understanding the male psychology a bit please. There is a guy I met at the pub (35), he was going through divorce and my case is the same. We connected, in his words he was very intrigued by my story and he found me very attractive. ...
A. 3 June 2013: Hi
He probably was impressed at first, he maybe likes strong independent women, especially if he has a demanding Ex. But nowadays there are plenty of independent single women with and without children, so he has choice.
You slept with him w... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy back to his warm usual self?
Q. Hi, need help understanding the male psychology a bit please. There is a guy I met at the pub (35), he was going through divorce and my case is the same. We connected, in his words he was very intrigued by my story and he found me very attractive. ...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi
To be honest I don't think you will. You had sex and that's what he wanted, he knew you gave in easily, knows your history and he's done now.
There is no future with him in any form, unless he makes a booty call when drunk.
Look a... (read in full...)
Is he counting the cost, despite refusing my offers to go dutch? He now says I order pricey food all the time
Q. Hi all. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months, we both go to graduate school and work at the same time. The other day we were talking during dinner and he said that I always ordered the most expensive thing in the menú and drinks! ...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi
I think he just made a throw away comment but he has hit a sore spot with you.
Next date just ask him out, you can buy tickets for something or stop in and pre order take-away and pay for it either one as a surprise for him. That way he can'... (read in full...)
I cant deal with this! My ex got married within 6 months of breaking up with me
Q. I am in intense emotional pain right now. I found out today that my ex got engaged and married within six months of breaking up with me. I was still pining over him and he moved on with no issue. He never informed me directly. I found out quit...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi
Hard as it is you just have to accept he did not love you how you loved him. He was probably seeing the woman he married before you split up.
Many have had their hearts broken, me included,I thought a bus had landed on me. We had been toge... (read in full...)
Are my husband's threats real or a bluff? What can I do to protect myself?
Q. my husband is living in the same house as I am with his girl friend. He threatened me yesterday saying that he will not give me alimony and I will either be going back to my country or living n jaiL if I do not work and move out and he will be ...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi
Would it be a such bad thing to go back to your country and family ?
You have no job so no income, your husband has moved his girlfriend in, life is not good. How long has this gone on, how long have you been married? Yes he can file for ... (read in full...)
I'm not having sex till I get married. Why do so many friends criticise me for this?
Q. I'm a girl, at university and I've decided I'm not having sex till I get married. I'm Christian, but that's actually not the reason why - I'm really liberal and fully in support of gay marriage/pro-choice etc. It's because sex means a lot to me ...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi
It's because you make them feel uncomfortable, it's like people who don't drink alcohol when young.Others don't get it they think of sex,drink fun as 'normal' at your age so when someone is different they think it's weird, that your missing ... (read in full...)
He cares less and less although he used to want to spend time with me!
Q. my boyfriend keeps staying out all night and its really upsetting me. I told him he needed to let me in after work as I didn't have a key and left me waiting on the doorstep and never showed up. I rang and text with no luck. This morning he text ...
A. 1 June 2013: Hi
If you don't live there nor have a key for his place then he is in effect saying he doesn't want you turning up and stopping over.
If you live there and forgot your key then he should have explained he wouldn't be back till late, left his f... (read in full...)
Fried Chicken was my birthday gift:(
Q. I have been dating this guy for nearly six months. Things have not gone so smoothly, but we worked through our differences and we both like each other a great deal. My birthday was last week and as a gift, he brought me a big bag of fried chicken...
A. 1 June 2013: Hi
He sounds thoughtful to me, plus he actually remembered your birthday and the fact you liked the chicken.
If it wasn't ideal for you then you need to start dropping hints about what you do want. Some people just need a little nudge in ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend but feel guilty because he is in such a mess!
Q. Am I a bad person for wanting to leave my current boyfriend? We have been together two years, I care about him deeply and I think he is a great person with a lot of potential. But he is constantly making bad decisions and doing things that end up ...
A. 1 June 2013: Hi
Just leave, he is not your responsibility. If he is being evicted and you live together now, then you will both be homeless anyway.
As long as you pay his debts he won't learn the outcome of his bad decisions and they are his, not yours, ... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend wants me to be friends with his new gf
Q. I went out with this man for 5 months and it did not feel right, I did not love him and we are not compatible. Due to his new religion; he tries to tell me what to do and not. I am an open-minded person and respect everyone but I do not like to...
A. 1 June 2013: Hi
Block his and her email address and change your phone number. You have no need to have contact with either of these two, you are single and the relationship with him is finished. He sounds weird to me.
If he does return to the UK, with or ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong because I asked my g/f to let me know what's going on rather than making me wait for hours to find out?
Q. I had plans with my gf last night, that we had made weeks in advance, to meet up at ten pm as i was winding down from work. I'm a bartender and Thursday nights are crazy. And she was going to come when she knew we were going to exchange shifts and I ...
A. 1 June 2013: Hi
Your not her priority her family is.
She had time to let you know she couldn't make it because she had time to receive a call about her brother then get over there, 2 mins to send you a text was easy.
Your not selfish you expect respe... (read in full...)
Boyfriend quit his job, I'm the only one working. He's angry because I bought something for myself!
Q. My boyfriend quit his job because he hated it so much. We are in week 7 of him not having a job and I don't feel that he is really making much of an effort to look for one. I am paying his mortgage (my name is not on the house) and the food for the ...
A. 1 June 2013: Hi
After reading the additional posts it's obvious you and he are just not compatable.
You say he has attributes you love,ok, but you want different things in life,your driven and motivated, would rather have a room for your shoes than incom... (read in full...)
Boyfriend quit his job, I'm the only one working. He's angry because I bought something for myself!
Q. My boyfriend quit his job because he hated it so much. We are in week 7 of him not having a job and I don't feel that he is really making much of an effort to look for one. I am paying his mortgage (my name is not on the house) and the food for the ...
A. 31 May 2013: Hi
Nobody is holding a gun to your head, making you stay and pay are they?
You can move out, find a place of your own, your working and have a good income.
Some people do feel a job is just not important enough to ruin health and well-bei... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 18 May 2013: hi
Sit-ups! Swimming, skipping, running, start slowly and build up.
As for diet lots of veg and fruit. Try looking up high carb diets/recipes on the internet. Never eat a big meal late at night. Have a breakfast that fills you ie porridge oats... (read in full...)
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