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Archived questions from: September, 2011 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

He is afraid of committment! Is there a chance one day we might be together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4614 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - my ex and I used to be best friends and then we decided to go out together. they were the best months until once he told me that he is afraid of commitment. he feels trapped when he is serious.at the same time he does not want to lose me. he didn't ...

Should I work in another city than my wife? Will distance bring us closer? I don't want to go!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - Before I come to my problem let me take you to its history. I was 11 and fell in love with 9 years old girl who happened to be orphan living in orphanage in front of our old house in our hometown. We would meet in the park and played there...

I kissed another man. How do I tell my husband, who has been away for work reasons. Should I tell my husband?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I kissed a man at a conference a week ago... I've been married for 7 years. My sex drive is WAY higher than my husband and this has been a struggle our whole marriage. Every four to eight weeks on average... And nothing while I was pregnant. I ...

He is 40 and I am 25. Is that too old if you both like each other?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - im 25 and the guy i like is 40. is that too old if you both like each other? and do older men think 25 is to young? im pretty mature i mean ifinished grad school, and still live with my parents but am looking to eventually move out.. i was wondering ...

Is he ready to call it quits? And can't tell me yet? should I continue down the same path and give him space?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4614 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and I just can't figure out where our relationship is going and what it is that he wants. When we first started dating, things were so wonderful that I cannot even explain. We have so many things i...

He says he is falling in love with me but that he can't leave his family. How can I let go of him and end our work affair?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I need some advice. I am a teachers assistant at an elementary school. I have been working with the same man for the last three years. We are both married with 3 kids. We have formed a great friendship and seem like ideal mates for each other. W...

Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4463 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...

Is it a stigma to be a 31 year old Male Virgin? And is my drastic solution the best one, in the circumstances?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4559 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - I don't know how to put this as a question: I just want to know if I'm not alone in the way that I feel? My story: I'm a 31-year-old guy and still a virgin. I am deeply pained - being a virgin at 31 feels like a stigma and to a large extent i...

Why It’s Important To Keep Your Relationship Exciting

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - Throughout my professional career I've come across many people that were lacking excitement in their relationship. Many of them have experienced some form of it in the beginning of their relationship- but they all seem to ask me the same ...

I need to start over, and could really use some advice on how to do it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hello. I'm not doing so well. My life doesn't seem to be getting better. And I really need some advice. I been though physical and sexual abuse when I was younger, and It's been making me feel depressed all the time. I know people say I need to ge...

Does this make him gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - My bf told me that he is bi and likes me to use a dildo on him. Does that make him gay? I'm afraid I will lose him because he might want to be with a guy. He loves sex with me and I turn him on. He also tells me he loves me . He says he doesn't ...

Why is she texting me, giving me mixed signals, and calling me? does that mean I have a chance. Or does she just want me around while she grieves?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My ex and I broke up about 4 weeks ago. Its hard for me to talk to her because it was my fault we broke up. She is still mad that I facebook chatted this girl I want, suppose to talk to while I was drunk and we talked, then turned to sexting. I hone...

How can I support him? Could he be lying to cope with his parents' divorce?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I have this very good guy friend. He is a really good guy, very sweet and usually an honest person. About two weeks ago he texted me he wasn't going to be in school. I asked why, and he said family issues. I told him I hope eveythings ok and h...

How normal, or how often, is it likely a person could get depressed by what their loved one says?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - How normal or often is it to get depressed by what your loved one says? sometimes I feel like I was in a better place before I talk to my boyfriend. He's very politically centered, and I just don't like politics. everything has to be poli...

My work colleagues rarely bother asking me to go out with them as a group. How do I get accepted by this group? Should I ask if I can join in?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I really hope its okay just this once to ask a different type of relationship question!! My work 'mates' never ask me to go anywhere with them, and I was wondering should I start asking them to come out with me instead? Ive worked t...

I'm totally unlike anyone my boyfriend's been with.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - I made a huge no-no. As a little preface, I'm currently dating a guy who is far more experienced than me. Part of it comes from an age difference (nearly a decade) and another part comes from the way he's lived his life up until now (he's done a...

I think I have to choose between my career and my boyfriend.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi, Just a quick question! Should I accept my boyfriends offer to financially support me or focus on my career just in case?! I live with him for a few years now and have always been pushing myself really hard to get a great career so I'd have s...

How do you know if a marriage will last?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - How do you know if a marriage would last between you and your love?...

My teacher gave me a heart, does it mean his heart belongs with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - I still have a crush on my old chemistry teacher. At results day we were really close and we nearly kissed, his face was millimetres away from mine. Now I have left and attend a different sixth form I cant stop thinking about him and the message ...

She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...

Do girls find a man with a big butt attractive??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - do girls like big butts on a man? im slim but quite defined up top, definded arms, stomach and shoulders but in a slim way, i not skinny, fit is the word id use, then my legs are realy musculare from all the running i do , football for pas...

I've been waiting for 2 and a half years for my boyfriend to talk to me! Is he worth it?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 years and a month. (Since I was 12, and now I'm 17.) After 2 and a half years together, he moved across the US from me. Before he left, everything in our relationship was GREAT! He was the perfect ...

Will our relationship be illegal when I graduate?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Ok I am going to graduate this year from highschool and my boyfriend is a year younger than me will it be illegal for me and him to date when he is still in highschool and I'm not? Also I don't want to break up with him I want him and I to be ...

Was I just a 'work girlfriend'?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Was I just the 'work girlfriend?' A new guy starting working at my office 5 months ago and I was assigned to work closely with him. We hit it off straight away but while I was professional but friendly because it was work and I didn't know him ...

Ladies, which do you prefer - the cook or the dancer?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - Just out of curiosity to all the women out there, which do you prefer - a man who knows his way around the kitchen or a man who knows his way around the dance floor? And why? (I'm just taking a poll of sorts after an interesting discussion among...

If I leave it means moving back in with my parents and having no money with 2 young children, but I know he will never change if I stay.....what should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I have been with my partner for 5 years and married for 2 months, we have two children together ages 1 and 2. He is in the army so when we got married i moved in with him, 3 hours drive away from my home, i gave up my home and to be near m...

Is masturbating a sin?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - I am a Christian (Catholic) girl and I have recently started masturbating myself, and I read lots of articles that says that masturbation is a sin. Is it true? Did God really prohibits it? P.S I am not using any toys or such....

Is this bullying or am I just being overly sensitive?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

28 September 2011 (?) - Would you call this bullying or just overreacting? I feel like I'm being singled out by certain people. One of the rules at work is no mobile phones unless you're on your break. I keep mine in my locker but apparently "someone" saw me with my p...

Getting uncomfortable with my boyfriends increasing voyeuristic interests...am I make too much of this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - I am starting to become uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s increasing voyeuristic interests. After many years of a sexless marriage, I am divorced and in an exclusive relationship with the greatest guy in the world. We are incredibly in love with ...

I think about this celebrity 24/7

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

27 September 2011 (M) - I'm in love with "Penny "Character of TV Show "The Big Bang Theory". Will I be ever able to find life-partner like her in my real life? She is on my mind 24/7 , what should I do? You guys' take on this would be appreciated ! Thank you! ...

His ex is a newly married good looking girl. What does it mean to us he checks her out on FB regularly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - We are just about to get married and I found out that my future husband is regularly visiting facebook profile of his ex who is also freshly married. He told me about her, that he left her as he couldn't imagine being with her for the rest of his l...

Love triangles. I keep trying to do the 'right' thing but it keeps hurting more and more. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - First it's important to know that I have never had this occur before, never thought it even slightly possible, and hope it never happens again. I'm 35 and 3 years ago I moved workplaces. I was assigned a mentor, B, who was great in showing me the ...

Why do people expect their significant others to stop seeing the mother/father of their child even though they are together?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I have seen alot of questions on this site an also on TV and once with my aunt. Why do people expect their bf/gf/husband/wife/fiance to stop seeing the mother/father of their child because they're together? For example, lets say a girl and a bo...

How do I stop becoming bitter?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

27 September 2011 (M) - After you have been burned by someone, how do you stop from becoming bitter and cynical about love? I still feel my heart becoming harder. And anger and frustration dampening my hope and enthusiasm so that I do not believe in love anymore. What...

When is the right time for me to come out as a Cross Dresser? I need help to come to terms with my life.

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26 September 2011 (M) - I am whats classed as a cross-dresser. I want to be able to 'come out' to my parents, to my school mates, to everybody. I am afraid to do this, I have almost told my Mam once or twice, but Dad is so male, that I am afraid to tell him. I need help ...

Has being single so long left me bitter in some way, or maybe desperate seeming?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - I've been single for three years. The first year was nice, because I was finding my own life after getting out of a long, young, horribly bad relationship (only one ever). Now I've wanted to be with somebody and have a healthy relationship for year...

Can this be a relationship? He is straight and I am gay. He's a co-worker.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

26 September 2011 (M) - i would like to ask help or advice regarding my relationship to my co-worker. i am so very confused about our relationship because between the two of us there is a mutual understanding between our friendship. probably he knows that i care for him ...

Has anyone ever felt this way for a potential significant other?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - Hi I was wondering if anyone has felt this way or if anyone can make me realize what these feelings were. During my last course in graduate school ( i was 24) I landed in this class; my last class thesis class, before I had to graduate. Either w...

I'm just really hurt and I didn't see it coming. Do I just let her go? I really do like her.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4608 days ago

26 September 2011 (M) - First of all thank you for reading this! So i've been in love with my best friend now for close to two years. We met at a friend's house and we liked each other and went on a few dates. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of two years so she...

Should I take 'Plan B' as there was no protection?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - Yesterday I attempted to have sex for the first time with a stranger and while drunk. The thing is he didn't have a condom on and I'm not quite sure if we actually had sex or not since I was inebriated and inexperienced. I remember that it hurt a lo...

Does real love even exist?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - I have a question and an opinion to ask of anyone here and if they could please help m out. I want to know if "love" between a man and a woman can really exist? Is it worth it to let someone in and really give 100% to the other individidual? I ask ...

I'm worried that no woman will ever be interested in me because of my financial problems

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

26 September 2011 (M) - I need some encouragment. I am 26 years old and just going to college. I am having some money problems with school loans so I may have to drop out, but I will pursue my education none the less. I am worried that no quality woman I would want to be ...

She wants me to visit her in USA. She does not know I had a criminal record in the past which may prevent me getting a visa

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

25 September 2011 (M) - A month ago I got a letter from a female I met in Florida back in 2003. Truth be told,I have always wondered what could have been. I have been invited over. Her family are bending over backwards for me. My problem being,I have a criminal record. It ...

An employee is sending me texts asking me out to dinner, and this started on my second day!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - Alright... so this week I started my new job and I was just trying to get used to everyone and get to know the employees since I am the new supervisor. This one employee passed me a note that said "dinner?" while I was sitting at my desk and it ...

I have only had sex with my current boyfriend, am I missing out on experiencing sex with other guys?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - ok so i am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend. im 23 and hes the only person ive had sex with and dated! and hes 24 and i am not his first, im his 13th sex object. right now in our relationship were happy, i know he loves me, he was the ...

Two weeks later he is not replying. Was I too hasty not letting him go further?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4619 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - Was I being to harsh on the guy? we were dating for two months and we were kissing all the time through the dates but I wouldn't let him go any further on our last date, however I let him touch me down there, and it was fine. we havent seen eac...

This guy is so decent and respected my boundaries. Is he interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4619 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - If a guy in a club/bar talks to you for a while, genuinely taking an interest in you. But yet, he doesn't try anything with you (proper flirting, holding your hand, putting his arm around you, touching your shoulder or leg) that kind of thing. It's ...

I hid the 'girl' side of myself from her and now I think it's coming back out!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4619 days ago

24 September 2011 (M) - Hello everyone, I'm 22 and I'm in a healthy and happy 2 years relationship with a girl. Everything is fine, but I hide something to her: at 16, I started to crossdress and I created that other side of me. I gave that side a name, buying myself gi...

I'm a virgin with a normal sex drive but the moment I meet someone I just freak out and my libido goes out of the door!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4620 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - Hi everyone, I have an ongoing, nagging problem that won't go away and it keeps getting bigger and bigger. I'm scared of having sex, even oral etc doing anything sexual with another person. This is long so bare with me, I'm going to get therapy t...

Is his Borderline Personality Disorder responsible for his varying feelings for me? First loving me and then falling out of love..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4620 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - At the start of the year, I moved to a different country for three months for work purposes. I was single and had been very happy for many years. So it came as a surprise when I met a man, started dating him and continued seeing him after I left and ...