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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I waste so many opportunities and have so many regrets!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I feel like life is passing me by,im 22 sitting at home when everyone else is out having a good time, enjoying their lives, i feel like i sabotage myself by turing down invitations and making impulsive stupid decisions.I didnt go out tonight ...

How do I let him know that it's ok to be open with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend always seems afraid to tell me things about his past. He was married before and has two kids. He also has had felony charges for drugs. Last time we hung out I caught him smoking, but he has quit now. At the time he was down to one c...

Disowned by family, homeless and with a child.... Help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi me explaining my situation might take a while but i need help.so please dont get bored.im 21yr old muslim and i am also at university.my family are very respected in the community but iv brought shame to them by getting pregnant without being ...

What are guys opinions on girls with short hair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, my last few exes have all loved my short hair (i sometimes have a chelsea cut, then let it grow out into a sort of pixie cut) it suits me and makes me look a lot more mature than what long hair does, i prefer it on me. My last real boyfrien...

Chosing between 2 guys. How do you do it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I dated a guys for 2 years he wasn't able to commit to me (wasn't ready to move in with me or get married). We broke up because I couldn't handle that anymore. After the break up I ran into an old friend from highschool and we started talking. He ...

Engaged, but I don't want to marry him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i got engaged ...but now i dont want to marry him ..he is not the kind of husband i thought of...i want to marry my love means my boyfriend ...i cant tell my family about this nor my fiancee ...pls help me what should i can do now?...

What was the meaning of her looking at me this way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - sometimes in church our eyes usually meets that's i and a girl of about 17.when our eyes meet we shyly remove it.it was one sunday on which i went to church alone just by coincidence our eyes met we look ourselves for close to 25 seconds before i ...

Falling in love with my sister

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - My sister and I seem to have feelings for each other. She has a boyfriend and I also have a girlfriend. I feel like I should tell her that we can submit our feelings to each other. Can I give a try incest and what it feels like?...

I find older women very attractive, is there anything wrong with that?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5464 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Ok im 18 f i have this problem. I seem to find older women attractive but i simply cant be coz its just wrong it says in the Bible. I dont know what to do. Please help!...

Fatherless and always get attached

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, my parents got divorced when I was about five or six years old. My dad has been in and out of my life. It's been really hard growing up without a dad. I usually get to see my dad twice a month, but these past three months, I haven't seen him. I ...

I am shy, but want to make more friends, would you give me some suggestions, how do I make that happen?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am feeling lonely. I have a great boyfriend but very few friends anymore. I am extremely shy and my confidence is iffy, but I think people mistake this for me being stuck up. I am willing to talk and befriend anyone who approaches me, but don't ...

Had a vivid dream about a guy I hardly even knew, what does this mean, if anything?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Last night I had a dream about this guy I used to go to school with. In my dream we were talking and stuff. Then the next thing I know we are having sex. I haven't seen him in like two years and I wasn't thinking of him. I never even really had a ...

Engaged but, he doesn't work, smokes weed all the time, plays video games and I'm tired, any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i dont know what to do thats y im asking for help. i been with my boyfriend/fiancee for 2 yrs, the reason y i put the slash fiancee is cause im engaged to him but i feel like our relationship is going no where, im 24 he is 25 he has a daughter from ...

Goth or Diva?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5430 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i need help.im going in to middle school and i wanna become a goth or a diva.my friend says if i become a snotty diva she won't be my friend no longer.but my dad says that if i should become a snotty diva to show dont mes with me who should i listen ...

I need insight as to why my life is like this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Why is my life this way? Hi! I must admit I have never really been lucky in love although I am quite good looking with a decent enough figure. To start with I didn't want to lose my virginity until I was 30 and then the guy turned out to be a wrong ...

What is love? What does it mean?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - i'm 16 and in high school. i was wondering what is love? i know its a strong feeling you have towards someone, but how do you know when your in love?...

Dad wants me to be a nurse..I don't want that! How can I get him off my back over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - i need some help, i posted on here before about this but here i go again!! I am 20, a student nurse in 1st year at uni and i donot want to do this any longer. i don't know why, i just don't want to continue to do this, or be a nurse, which is making ...

Why don't underage kids respect the boundaries that are put in place to protect them?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - just something thats bothering me. There are so many girls from the age of 10 - 16 having under age sex and not knowing a single thing about it then going oops could i be pregnant. its really depressing because when i was little i was content as a ...

Anyone know of a website that tells what dreams mean?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Not a question as such. I was just wondering if any of you agony aunts or uncles knew of any website, where you can get answers on what a dream meant. I know its a bit of a far out question, but i had an awful dream/nightmare a couple of days...

Do men like older virgins?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Men and Older Virgins? I know most men are into young women - especially if they are still chaste and virginal - but what do men think of older women who are still virgins? For example women in their 30s or even 40s as there are still some of us ab...

Apologise? Or stay away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - when people feel about something they have done is it normal for them to stay well away from the person they did wrong to? if they feel that bad then why dont they go and apologize to that person?...

Difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - my boyfriend told me and his friends that he loves me, but he's not in love with me. He says that may come in time. What should I do? Is there a differance between loving someone and being in love. He shows all the signs with his actions that he is ...

Is she into me or what's going on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5469 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Let me set the whole situation up first. Basically, I'm in this situation where I think the sister of basically my tightest homie(closest friend) is feelin me( likes me,lol), but the thing is, I think I might be feelin her too. I consider my homie ...

Is admitting you are "scared" unattractive?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Would most women think less of a man they were in a relationship with if he admitted he was truly scared or fearful of something that maybe the woman didn't find fearful? ...

If you are drunk, will your first sexual experience hurt less?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Just a Quicke Question. Does The First Time hurt Less If Drunk? x...

Having an affair with a married man, he is attentive, calls and texts me all during the day, do you think there is a future here?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4884 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I have been having an affair with a married man for 11 months we have known each other for 30 years, we get on great together have good sex he has never made promises he can,t keep, when we talk about the future he indicates he wants to be with me ...

Ladies, I have a lot of pubic hair which I want removed, how do I ask my mom to get me something that will take care of it, did you ever have this problem?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - This question is only for girls. I am thirteen and going thu puberty... obviously. any way I have a lot of pubic hair that show on the bekini line and I really want my mom to buy me nair wax strips for bikini lone or something like that but...

I am short of breath, have a sharp pain, doctor has found nothing, any suggestions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - Hi. I'm really worried about my health. There are times when I feel a little short of breath, and every now and again, I experience a short but sharp pain in my chest. It only lasts for a second or two and then it stops. I've been to a docto...

One child, one on the way, do not love each other, should we stay together for the sake of the children?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I'm in a difficult situation - as I suppose everyone else here is as well. here goes: I'm 28 and in a relationship of 4 years (we are not married but have lived the life of a married couple for ~3 1/2 years). We have a 2 1/2 year old and one on t...

Complicated 12 year relationship, we are not together now, but I need him, what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5469 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - God this is complicated where to begin..my ex and I split 2 yr ago after a 12 yr on/off relationship. everything was wonderful until 4 yr ago when we bought a caravan to spend weekends away however, when we went on a saturday he insisted on ...

Is it illegal for a step-brother and step-sister to have a baby together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - is it illegal for a step brother and step sister to have a baby together?...

I think he was very rude to me after I spotted his white duvet a bit, what do you think?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I hope people don't find this too personal a question but here goes. Recently I have had sex with my fiance and unfortunately I have started spotting. He has pure white sheets and I sat on a towel but two very tiny smudges got on his white duvet. I ...

Is calling out because of an emergency a good reason to terminate me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - this question i have has to do with work, i was put on a final write up because of my attendance so one of the managers from my job put me on the final write up and told me if i call out one more time im terminated so i ask her what if i have an ...

I was treated unfairly by the police!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hey this isnt a relationship question sorry. Right i went to a huge birthday party on the eighth of may and there was sixty odd people there, most of them either 16 or 17 and one 18 year old. (my mum bought my alcohol as im not eighteen for a...

I am in love with my friends wife

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I have a big question/issue. Myself and one of my friends met this girl at the same time and where I am a shy and reserved guy he is not and he hit it off with her right away. Well since then we have all been friends and I was developing a crush ...

I am naturally pessimistic about life and the world

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5469 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - this is a broad question. i am aware that there are a million approaches to life, but my mind usually takes the most negative perspective first. if i try hard enough and am lucky, i'll force myself to look at it another way--and believe it. but typi...

I was his rebound and he left me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I dated this guy last summer who had just gotten out of a relationship. He was very depressed and I seemed to make him feel better. I was basically his shoulder to cry on all summer. I fell more in love with him than I ever have with anyone! ...

Any nursing students out there?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Any nursing students out there.. how the hell do you remember all they abbreviations????? god I got an A on the first test and the second was awful because the teacher did not tell us what abbreviations where going to be on the second test.. I...

Calling all men!!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Calling all men! Men i need your advice! I wanna know what you guys like to hear in a brand new "getting to know each other" friendship/potential something. What kinds of things turn you on in a woman? I think Im pretty chill, but I wana know ...

Is it okay too have sex with a girl you don't really like, when you like someone else?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - is it okay too have sex with a girl you dont really like when you like someone else ?...

He seems genuine, but my friends think he is just after sex! Tell me what you think.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Let me apologize in advance for the long posting. I met a guy through some mutual friends about a year ago. We were paired up in their wedding. That was the first time we had met in person. He seemed like a nice guy. We talked for a while at the ...

Love of my live, and memories

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - OK well we were together when I was 14 and he was 17 (yes I know very young love) but I can’t seem to stop thinking about him. He was and still is the love of my life I think, I am now 28 and there is not a day that goes by when I don't think about ...

Married to the Mob

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I was married to a man whom I felt I no longer loved, so I divorced him and a couple years later, I met whom I felt was my dream lover. He swept me off my feet for 3 years we dated then finally I agreed to marry him, well almost immediately he ...

I don't like who I have become, how can I change this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - my morals have slippped and i don't know who i am any more. :( I used to have really high morals and was too sensible. I got A's in all my gcses but i felt like i was missing out on my youth. I felt a bit trapped, too. so i tried to be as re...

Was I molested or raped?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - When i was a little kid around 7 or so my brother (around 10) would force me and my younger cousin to engage in sexual activity with him. i knew it was wrong but i was young and didnt know what to do. so i would tell him no and after a while he ...

I feel awful that I know he's having an affair. Do I tell his wife?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I have been struggling with a large amount of guilt for many years. I was very aware that one of my mutual friend's husband "Dan" was having an affair while their children were quite young and I never had the nerve to tell her. The longer it went ...

Pregnant but not sure marriage is the answer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5471 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I met a guy soon after my divorce and we just hit it off. Neither of us ever expected much when we first me but we have really connected. In fact I can say that we have really fallen for each other. We are in our mid thirties and both came out of ...

Want a meaningful relationship, how do I get noticed by guys?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - well this has been troubling me for a while and I was hoping someone could give me a little insight as to what I should do. I'm 20 years old and I have the hardest time getting noticed by guys it's as if I'm invisible to the opposite sex. They ...

She was my girl first, I dumped her, now has a boyfriend, there is sexual tension between us, what should I do to find out if this could work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5472 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - I usually don't have to ask for help but this is a grinder. I dated this girl last summer, REALLY hit it off, I dumped her when I went to college (she was upset about it). Anyhow she got a BF, lost 'it' to him, convinced she will marry him. Durin...

Met a guy over World of Warcraft while yet in another relationship, things got confusing, what is your opinion of the state of affairs?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I met a guy over World of Warcraft....he was amazing. He became my best friend and in no time we fell for each other. Well at the point in time, he was in a three year relationship, where I was in a one year. We still continued to flirt, until ...