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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why do girls like the bad boys?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there :) I have a wee question in general; why do girls like bad boys as opposed to the sensible, faithful guys who will treat them right?! Kind of a silly question, but just wondered if there was anyone else who, like me, is more attracted to the laddish lads an... (63 words)

My girlfriend has a subscription to zoosk. Should I worry?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I have just found that my gf (2 years) has a subscription to zoosk. Should I be worried ? I feel angry and betrayed. I assume zoosk is an online dating site ? I reckon she is up to no good? Could anyone advice me on how I should approach this?... (51 words)

Have you ever gained interest in someone after they've gone cold on you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have an issue that seems to reoccur most times when i'm falling for someone. So i had a this guy who was really interested in me, calling me all the time, relentlessly texting me and asking me out on dates. All of this constant contact really turnt me off and i displaye... (142 words)

I don't want our relationship to end because my boyfriend is talking to the slut of the town!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure if I have made the right decision here. I told my boyfriend of two years that I think we should take a break. I did this because I was really upset about this girl he talks to always hitting on him and coming onto him. I felt uncomfortable about their friendship... (216 words)

Is he all talk and no action? Just stringing me along?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4025 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age - I've engaged in a texting relationship with a business associate whom I've known for many years now. He has swept me off my "feet" with talks of foot rubs and beyond. He is an Aries man of a certain age and very married a successful business which keeps him on the "road" 75% ... (356 words)

He shows all the signs of not wanting to be with me but claims this isn't the case?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my fiancee for nearly three years - we got engaged at New Year this year. He has an adorable little girl who I love too. When we got together we had a lot of problems with his ex (we still do) refusing to move on and we have had a lot of insecurity issue... (385 words)

He's sending out mismatched signals and I'm confused!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone! Last week I was hangin out with one of my best firend (he is guy). He took me to the really beautiful caffe bars and lounge bars and for a walk. We are friends for like over 5 years and I kinda always felt somethig more because we ge get along very well, we ar... (230 words)

Is it a crime to have an opinion that goes against the grain?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I happened to say on Facebook that a remake of a legendary film-maker's movie was way, way better than the original one. I said that the original was over-hyped and I didn't really see anything special in it. And scores of people pounced on me from all ends with scathing ... (128 words)

Is my personality a big turn-off for guys?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4025 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Most of my friends told me I'm a very nice,friendly,bubbly,outgoing,sweet,interesting,funny and genuine person.They really like me and enjoy talking to me cos I'm fun to be around with.Some of them even told me,"it's difficult for people to dislike you or hate you.You're an ... (509 words)

He says I don't turn him on sexually. Porn is his preference. Do I stay for the sake of our children or leave?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4021 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone. Am depressed need your advice. I am mother of twins they are only 3 years. My husband of 4 years has told me we should split up in several occassions. I have found him on dating sites twice and everytime he diactivate the account. He says I dont turn him on... (218 words)

I want to make an impression on her. How can I make this boat trip special for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey Im taking a woman on her first boat trip and want ideas to make it special for her. We have 23 people and we are snorkeling and doing some wildlife sightseeing. I'm having her match my swimming suit n also baking a family dessert recipe for her and my friends to try. Any ... (62 words)

Is he just leading me on to use me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4018 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - am a 20 yr old girl,i met this guy over a dating site he is 30years old,ok we did the obvious that is exchanged phone no.s and started chatting thro the phone he was like, he liked me and i liked him to that was after a month of talking through the phone we agreed to meet ... (143 words)

Why did my male friends do this to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone! This is kind of a weird situation I'm in... I'm a girl, and I've been friends with these 4 guys for a long time. Purely friendship only, we're big gamer nerds and play xbox and stuff all the time. We've all had a great friendship over the years. So... (267 words)

Its killing me that I can't tell my crush that I like him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - What do I do? I like him so much is killing me.? So I was talking to this cute guy that I like so much and I asked him if he thinks a girl should tell a guy when she likes him and he said yes is 2013 so off course she can tell him. He said I should tell the guy I lik... (195 words)

Should I be worried about oral sex unprotected from 4 years ago?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4025 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am here to ask about the effectivenes of HIV home test such as OraQuick, as well as the rist of Oral sex when it comes to HIV. The reason why I am asking is because I literally just took one OraQuick test, followed the instructions to the T and (Thank God) it came back ... (602 words)

Can something get punctured by having sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4025 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it normal when my boyfriend and i have sex i cani feel him past my bellybutton. It is really painfull . can he puncture something ?... (32 words)

Why can't I/we seem to move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Myself and a work mate developed strong feeling for one another, we didn't act upon them because we are both attached and not cheaters. I left the company about 7 months ago and since then have periodically text him to touch base and see how it's going. About 4 months ago we ... (253 words)

I'm feeling uncertain as I try to woo my ex back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - My ex and I had a long distance relationship for 7 months which has slowly faded out. While we're not in the same kind of relationship as we were we have been texting a little each day mostly general day to day stuff. This morning I closed our short text with an "xo" followed ... (148 words)

Struggling with a situation. Is he into me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4014 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, Well here's the situation I would like your opinions on. I am bisexual male. I always knew I was gay until one day I realized I also liked girls (this happened when I joined the university I am currently studying). Anyway, some years before university I met a guy wh... (625 words)

How do I stop being a pushover?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Im not getting anywhere + anything I want in life. In other words, I can honestly say that I am probably a bit of a pushover - even in the eyes of others. This needs to change. For example, the other day at work, one of the managers said to me that I was to easily intimidat... (238 words)

My friends are open about going on internet dating sites despite being married, yet I don't feel comfortable with this. Opinions please?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - What do you think about this please. I have some friends they are a married Indian Hindu couple with a year old child. I have learnt from her that her husband goes onto Internet dating sites for fun. He was contacted by an escort who said she wanted 150 pounds for her ... (207 words)

We've been together for 8 months and already the sex has stopped, is it worth trying to continue this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - In a relationship with a female for my first time. I have been having issues with coming out and I have kept her as a secret. We have been going back and forth about this issue. I am willing to work about my issues too however there is another issue that had been brought out ... (298 words)

We are never intimate and now she doesn't seem to care as much about me, is she dating someone else?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M) age 41-50 - Hi thanks to you all for answers to my questions thus far. i'm a guy of 26 plus and my girlfriend is 22 plus she work as a secretary we have been dating getting to 4yrs. now we both love each other we've not had sex, romance or kiss even when she pays me visit but the last ... (122 words)

I'm leaving tomorrow and probably wont ever see him again, how do I make this more bearable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - We met online. Talked every day for months. He flew me over so we could meet. Halfway across the world. It was wonderful. We had a great time, it was like a dream. We were living together, which made us get to know each other more, including our flaws and fears. I fell in love. ... (272 words)

I need some courage to leave my cheating boyfriend but I don't want to hurt him! Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm in a bit of a pickle, me and my boyfriend have been together for four years, we have a one year old son together. Two months after I had my son I found out that the previous year that he had been cheating on me for a month with a friend of mine I always knew but I needed t... (263 words)

Is my B/f still not over his ex? And is she the reason why he wants to go for the party?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of 8mths who I live with, has been asked to go to a 30th birthday party. He asked me to go with him, and I said yes. It was a Facebook group invite and I have since seen that his ex (who broke his heart ) is invited. He has been checking the event quite a bit to ... (199 words)

How do I change the underlying issue within myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello Dearcupid, I have come to see what is a major reoccurring issue for me in my relationships with men. 1) I base my self-worth on a man's approval. For example, I just broke it off with a guy who I was clearly not emotionally compatible with. But, I am stuck on ... (346 words)

My husband is using money he used to give to me for strip clubs

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been married for 2 years I have two kids now one 20 months and another one 6 months when my husband turned 21 last year he started drinking a lot now he drinks once in a while. But now he's starting to go to strip clubs more and more he use to tell me but then he stopped ... (143 words)

I think my boyfriend is crushing on his son's girlfriends. His behavior is too strange!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3576 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age - I have a question about what constitutes friendly behavior and what constitutes bad behavior. My boyfriend has started asking his son often when his son's new girlfriend is coming over to our house. Now, My boyfriend thinks I am jealous of his son's girlfriends. I am not. Since ... (521 words)

I am wondering if my crush could be gay or bi. How could I find out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I think that I might like this girl that I work with. The only problem is that I don't even know she's bi or even gay. She is always touching me when we're working together, like touching my back when she walks by or hugging me. She laughs at my really lame jokes. She ... (137 words)

Is it normal to be jealous of a crush?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a crush and I'm not sure how she feels but I was wonering if it was normal to be jealous when she talks to strangers... Sorry about the bad grammar its late P.S. I don't really get jealous unless its touchy feelie... (51 words)

Did I came on to her too aggressively?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4027 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - So, there was this girl who pretty much in every single class that I'm in this semester. Throughout the semester, I noticed she's been behaving anomaly, things like: 1) When class finished, I often stay back a minute or two to pack up my stuff and turn in my works, and she a... (475 words)

We had unprotected sex. Should I ask if everything is ok with her cycle?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - okay, awkward subject: I've been dating a girl I really like for the past 5 months. We've been having sex on the regular basically every time we see each other. Only thing though, last month (the 25th specifically) she was on her period and was saying that I could "fir... (200 words)

I'm 18 and have no friends and no real family to confide in, where do I go from here?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey my lovely aunts and uncles. I'm really depressed lately and I thought I would come on here to ask for your help and opinions. This post will be a bit long so please hang in there because I'm really desperate for help. I'm only 18 years old and a part time college student.... (427 words)

My boyfriend saves pictures of beautiful women he knows

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend (we'll call him Jim) saves pictures of beautiful women he knows onto his phone (he gets the photos off Facebook and online). I've known since I met him that he likes being seen with attractive women - the overwhelming majority of his Facebook photos are him w... (689 words)

My boyfriend is going to spend Mother's Day with his ex and his daughter

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has a daughter with his ex, and usually he got to see his daughter after he finished class like around 9pm. Recently his ex decided that 9pm is too late to come see her (even though on the days she works, she's ok with him watching her until she gets off around ... (457 words)

If she lied to me, and used me....will she now lie and use HIM as well?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Right so it's been a while so i've been hurt by this girl. Long story short, i met her about 4 years ago. She was an immigrant. Striking beauty. Struck up a friendship. Soon I was giving her money because she claimed to be poor, getting by. Drove her places, taught her to ... (446 words)

Why do I feel so tired, sad, frustrated and angry all the time.?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4027 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a good life....love my job, my partner of 6 months and I have an amazing family but for some reason I cant feel happy. I have tried improving myself and feeling happier by losing 6kgs, gettting back into my artwork that I havent done for 7 years, exercising, spending ... (264 words)

I wish I spoke "Woman"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife of 23 years has on and off tried to end our relationship for as long as i can remember. we both have had previous short lived marriages, and when we first got together i was just outta of marriage by a few months so when we were dating i still visited the ex. she ... (497 words)

How can I stop my co-worker from taking credit for my work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4027 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid This is work related propblem. My office collegue doesnt work at all, he free rides ma all the time. But my managers everyone is basically giving him credit for my work. Everyone knows im the one who is doing everything, but still he gets the credit. I am f... (180 words)

Why does my boyfriend make plans and then never follow through?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid My bf often makes plans for us to go for vacation, but never really executes the plan. Whenever i ask he dismisses saying that he'll get to me on the dates and then forgets conviently. Yesterday i asked him again, since i needed a break from work, he said im keep ... (136 words)

How do I deal with the guilt trips my ex lays on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4027 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Short and Sweet: How do I not let his guilt trips get to me, and how to get him to move on? Backstory: I was with my ex for 1.5 years, and it was great for the most part. Certain traits I didn't care for, and vice versa, but it worked. No plans for marriage, and wh... (331 words)

I'm attracted to white men. I'd like to date them but not sure how to approach them

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (?) age 41-50 - i have recently found myself attracted to white men and not only am i a black woman i live in the bible belt of the united states....tennessee. I have no idea how this happened...i am not saying i am not atrracted to other fellow black men ..it is just i am an engineer and i am ... (155 words)

Am I an awful girlfriend because I don't want to go to the car meet with my boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello aunts and uncles. I feel like an ungrateful spoiled girl for this question since there are so many about women whose men do not want to spend time with them, I have the opposite issue. I actually started to live with my boyfriend of a year , I am not interested in lo... (570 words)

Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

10 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before my mother died but it worsened ... (354 words)