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writes:Do you think most guys don't want to "commit" in their 20's even if they REALLY like a girl?Or would even a guy who doesn't like commitment commit if he found the perfect girl? What do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): I've heard when you turn 24, you are capable of making a rational decision. I look back and got married at 22, it's a very tumultuous marriage. That's 18 years ago. I wonder if I would've married him at 24...I don't believe I would've.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (2 December 2008):
 In my experience guys in their 20's are more likely to commit than guys in their 30's. Guys in their 30's tend to have been dumped by the mother of their children, and dont want to be hurt again. Thats less likely to of happened to a guy in his 20's. Well, thats just my opinion anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): If it was with a girl he REALLY liked of course he'd commit- he wouldn't want to risk losing her.
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reader, zelgamer  +, writes (2 December 2008):
 I think katatonic hit it on the nail. Some are and some aren't, studies suggest that males are more likely to be commited at the age of 25 because of maturity. I am 22, and am married, I was commited to my wife when we were dating when I was 20, so...
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reader, katatonik +, writes (2 December 2008):
 I think attitudes toward commitment really depend on the person, and on what you mean by commitment. Are you talking "commitment" as in dating you exclusively or commitment as in marriage? Plenty of people get married in their 20's, and plenty don't.
In general, though, I'd say the younger a guy is, the less likely that he's going to want to immediately settle down. When you say 20's, are you talking 21? 25? 29? I wouldn't expect most 21-year-olds to rush to the altar just because they have a long-term girlfriend, but someone, say, 28-29 might be a different story.
As for getting a guy who doesn't like commitment to commit, it's possible, but the chances of the relationship working out the way you want it to are almost certainly decreased by the fact you've then pressured him into something he didn't really want or was wary of in the first place. Good luck.
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reader, Mr-M +, writes (2 December 2008):
 Hey, well, first of all, there are guys out there who don't really want to commit to a relationship, as they will be thinking "why put myself through all that, im young and should be enjoying life and 'racking up the numbers'", but to be completely honest, there are plenty of guys around who will be more than happy (at least, i think that there would be anyways) to commit to a relationship, especially if they really really like the girl they are with.
Even in the case of guys who don't like to commit, there will be extenuating circumstances that will push them to commit, like, for example, if they feel that the girl they have is perfect for them, they would be foolish not to.
I myself have found a girl that i feel is perfect in every way, even though she may not see that in herself, and have happily committed myself completely to her.
Hopefully this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): Any person girl or boy will commit to a relationship if they think they have found the right person. In their teens, 20s, 30s......90s.
When they are not willing to commit it is because they think there may be something better around the corner.
If you find yourself in a position to commit, propose to them, if they say no or hum an arr move on and don't look back
Good luck
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