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writes:its a bit nosy but i was just wondering about peoples experiences of having sex for the first time, whats it like? did things get awkward afterwards? pain? how romantic was it? advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): it was a bit awkward for both of us, not romantic more a case of let's do it on spur of moment. I didn't last long - no surprise there - she didn't really enjoy the physical experience - no pain on her part as she wasn't a virgin - i'm not even sure she enjoyed the emotional experience. we drifted apart afterwards - sad really. since then though it's gotten better (frankly I had no idea of what I was doing 1st time apart from where it went).
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 I always planned that mine would be special, under the stars and all romantic.
But it kinda just happened in the moment.
I was 16, it didnt hurt too much, and my boyfriend at the time was very caring and gentle, I dont regret it for a second.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): NOT romantic. It was with a guy I grew to really dislike afterwards, but at the time there was no pain, and I came pretty quickly. I haven't had that many sexual partners, but I'm married now and the sex just KEEPS GETTING BETTER.
My advice is not to put too much importance on how amazing and romantic the first time is. It might be awkward, painful, disappointing, or worse, just ok :)
The desire to have sex comes naturally, but actually having good sex is a skill you have to learn over time, and preferably with a willing, loving partner.
Good luck!
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (22 March 2009):
 mine was romantice. it was with my first love and my now fiance.
Spent the morning watching films in bed and then we kissed and kinda slowly got going.
pain for when he first went in *to put it politly* but after that there was no pain x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Not romantic, I lost it watching Anchorman and I've never been able to watch it since. Didnt hurt much and he only lasted a few minutes.
And then it got really boring after that :/
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Mine wasn't romantic at all. I had just broken up with my BF and ended up losing it to a guy I always had a small crush on. He was older and supposedly more experienced, but you wouldn't know it.
No pain. I had been fingered before by my ex and bled a tiny bit from it, so I think that broke my hymen some. I did bleed after sex though, but I didn't even realize it. He didn't put down a towel or anything, so it was all over his blanket, lol! He knew I was a virgin though, so it's his own fault.
After wards, he and I hooked up 2 more times over the next 6 months, and I haven't heard from him since. Good riddance. I don't know what I was thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): there is a great post by satindesire in the articles section :
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
but since you are asking for experience... it was fabulous and perfect we made love for hours and hours on rose petal covered bed we did everything and I mean everything several times in every room ....sigh.
....and then i woke up...it wasn't quite like that....fumbled through didn t have a clue where to touch and it was all over for a short while and then um we did it again... no pain, no awkwardness not romantic - lol - just nice. It got a lot better :) with time...
Star.x.
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