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writes:My husband is from another country he has just finally arrived in the U.S. about 10 months now, before we got married he said he wanted children, but I told him my tubes where tide and not sure if I wanted more, but I love him and I know he would be a good dad. He then said he is fine with me not having children and said in the past he wants none so I should stop talking with the facility that is going to reverse my tubes.Ok about us he is 32 and I am 48 I have had a physical, because he and I had prayed and want to have at least one child together, but I will have to get my tubes reversed.Its all so complicated, because I had a back fusion and I want it to be strong and able to carry a baby, but Im pressing for time, because of my age and having to get tubes reversed before to late.He never pressured me before and said he didn't care if we had any or not. Lately he said everyone at work keeps asking him if he has children or when is he going to have any. So now he wants one right away.I do want to have his baby out of the strong love we have for each other and I love children. I do have five children ages 26 to 7 yrs of age. He loves my children so much and says they are his children to, well my oldest that seems odd, because they are just a few years apart, but my husband is so mature others think he is older than I.We always get compliments how good we look together and someone wanted to take a picture of us saying we are the most in love couple they have ever seen.The bottom line is I do want his baby, but I need my back to be stronger and I am on heavy meds to ease the pain.I want to have this baby so bad that I hate I got my tubes tide, because I swore I would never get married again, but it happen with prayer and I found the love of my life and I him.Please give some advice and or possibilities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer, we have been asked to think about donor, but my husband wants my eggs used. The thing is he just wants me to try. If it works out, God will be praised and if not God will still be praised, because what happens is what God had in our plans already. I really don't know why I posted this, because I am not worried about whether I can get pregnant or not. It was just my husband seems to be pressuring me now and I am worried about doing so, when I am still taking meds to keep the back pain under control. The baby we have already seen we will have. Thanks again for your answer. Be blessed.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (28 January 2011):
 I think it's great that you want to give your husband a child of his own. In this situation, it's best not to get your hopes too high. It sounds like you are very religious, so I will remind you that God sometimes works in strange ways. It's always best to be prepared for the worst.
If you find out your eggs are not viable, you should consider having an anonymous donor's egg implanted inside of you. You can find a donor who looks very much like you, same ethnic background, etc. If you haven't considered this option, make sure you look into it as a backup plan. Just be aware, it is not cheap.
Have you and your husband discussed the option of using a donor egg? If so, how do the two of you feel about this option?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHad my checkup and had to find out what my levels were in order to have children. I/we believe with God anything is possible when it comes to having children with my own eggs. Yes, we were told the possiblities, but that we are not worried for God gives life and if it happens it happens, if not, then we will be fine with that.Thank you for your input.
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reader, viccra78 +, writes (28 January 2011):
I hate to be the one to give you a reality check but you are 48 years old! The chances of you having a child at your age are pretty LOW at best. I think that you are almost at the cut off for IVF clinics as well.
I would say that if you really want a child, your best option would be adoption or a surrogate with donor eggs. At 48 I would say that your eggs have reached their expiration date!
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