A
female
age
30-35,
Carrie216
writes:Does anybody else find it as ridiculous as I the age people nowadays are losing their virginity?I am sixteen and have no intention of having sex while I'm still a teenager. It saddens me whenever I hear of girls (and guys) my age running off together. Whatever happened to waiting until marriage? Sex is supposed to be a special, beautiful thing with someone you truly love in my opinion. I don't think anybody my age is ready for something that huge.Also, it's a big responsibility. Now, we not only have to worry about pregnancy, but STDs as well. Honestly, if you aren't prepared to accept possible consequences of having sex, then you aren't ready. And yet, young girls and boys still worry about still being a virgin. Like it's some kind of shameful thing to still be pure.It just seems too like the age is getting younger and younger. When I was thirteen (only just three years ago!), girls in my grade still didn't want anything to do with boys. And now it seems everywhere you go there's another story of some thirteen-year-old girl and what she did to have the boys in her grade. We didn't want to date them, let alone blow them.Just an opinion. I just don't think it's right for teens to have sex because we are much too young to bear the consequences.
View related questions:
std Reply to this Article
Share |
You can add your comments or thoughts to this article A
female
reader, Carrie216 +, writes (28 July 2008):
Carrie216 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I meant no disrespect to anyone. I was just stating an opinion. Sorry if it rubbed people the wrong way at all.
A
female
reader, rubespice27 +, writes (25 July 2008):
 i guess your right in some ways but me being a teen that has lost her virginty it was with somebody that was special that i loved with all my heart so you really cant judge if you havent experinced what your speaking about
...............................
A
male
reader, saltwater  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 It is frustrating to see that the main issues some 13 year old girls have when they post questions on here are things like "how do I give oral sex?" or "he wants to finger me" or "I think I might be pregnant!"
It's so depressing. By 18/19 people can pretty much make up there own mind, and if someone loses their virginity at that age well that's their choice and they are old enough to make that decision.
But kids around 13 who are getting stressed and worried about sex and intimacy is sad to see.
...............................
A
female
reader, Dream_Girl +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I agree with you.
But unfortunately I lost my virginity a couple months before turning 16.
I felt like a total hypocrite!
Plus I'd only been dating the guy for a month and a half =/
I really don't know what happened...
I was going to wait until I was seventeen or eighteen, AT LEAST.
But sometimes you get carried away in the moment.
Virginity is the most precious thing you can give to someone.
So you won't regret it if it's lost to someone you care about.
As for me I wish I had waited, but luckily I'm still with the guy I lost it to.
But we have a rocky relationship so I have no idea where it's going.
I feel that he uses me for my body sometimes.
It's probably because I put out so early into our relationship.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): I'm Afraid i disagree 100%
Im 16 Years old and have lost my virginity. I feel that its all about how mature you feel at the time. I don't believe that young girls should loose their virginity to be 'cool'. I also accept that religious views can impact a persons thoughts and feelings.
I just cannot comprehend how narrow - minded you are being.
...............................
A
female
reader, juturna +, writes (4 July 2008):
It's not always the girl's fault. Sometimes, a teenager is made to feel inadequate and unwanted. We are fooled into thinking that sex will make us desirable. And we don't realize what we've given away until it's too late.I hope you can keep your V card, you're stronger than a lot of people.
...............................
A
female
reader, asian gangster +, writes (1 July 2008):
yeah you got a good point about young teens but also, its how they feel about it. it is a special moment for two people to share so if they are in love, then it shouldn't be too much of a problem. having teens that are just doing it so they have the reputation obviously doesn't respect themselve but let them be. everyone does something once in thier life which they hopefully will learn the consequences of thier actions. i am a teen and i've done it before only because i believed it was special. as long as you don't fall pregnant, esp at this age, and if you trust your partner enough that they won't spread the word, everything should be sweet.
...............................
A
male
reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 When I was young, young people were too young to be complaining about what young people were up to these days.
Nowadays, you have 16-17 year olds complaining about what kids are up to! It's preposterous.
Why can't we go back to the good old days, when kids waited until they were at least out of the house -- or until they were married! -- before they started complaining about the behavior of young people?
...............................
A
male
reader, ChiRaven +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Ok, some statistics. In a follow up study in the U.S. about young people who took pledges as teenagers to remain virgins until the were married, 88% of those who made such pledges broke them and had sex before marriage. Only 12% kept the pledge. This compares with 99% non-virgins among people getting married for the first time who did NOT make such a pledge. Consider that only a tiny fraction of the teen population actually makes such a pledge, and you'll see that the portion of the population who come to marriage as virgins is vanishingly small.
On the other hand, that doesn't mean that anyone should be having sex before they are ready. It's always an individual thing, and nobody should be pushed into it. Nor should anybody judge someone else for their decision. If a person makes a choice, they have to be mature enough in their mind to live with the consequences. And others should respect that.
We were somewhat lucky in the 1960's, though. We lived in a time when contraception (the pill) was first available to anybody who wanted it, and there were virtually no STD's out there that couldn't be taken care of by a stiff dose of penicillin.
...............................
A
female
reader, atarisrocks +, writes (30 June 2008):
 i was 17 and wish i waited as i felt i was too young. i hate going town and seeing girls as young as 12 pregnant and the father of the baby being 19-22. these guys should be telling them not to do it not shagging them until they pregnant. i know u cant wait forever but at least wait until you know what your doing and will accept the results of your actions
...............................
A
male
reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Nicely written. couldn't have said it better and I agree with every word.
I actually wonder about this thing a lot. What happened to finding that one special person you want to give that special thing away to?
It seems that because everyone else is doing it, you should too. Wrong! Wait til you're of legal age and danaaa!!! You can sleep with whoever you like.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Congratulations, you are a wise girl indeed!
There is no reason to start with sex at the age of 13 or 14;
I am not saying that you have to wait for your wedding night; no not at all; I agree with LazyGuy; sexual compatibily is very important; but vow; you are not going to get married at 13 or 14;
You do not have to play the field for experience either; that is a "myth"; you can gain far more knowledge by reading and being prepared; emotionally and physically
Explore and have fun; enjoy the innocence and the built up;the adrenalin and the excitment; Don't rush; have sex when you are ready; don't be "bullied" into it;
Be strong; Best wishes!
...............................
A
female
reader, uberpinkii +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Im not against willpower and waiting BUT as mine was stolen, i did not value it until now. As lvoe my boyfriend and i am experienced because i went ou and learned how to please.. i was fully ware of the dangers and so on of sex and i was always very careful, i have had o grow up fast and i am responsible for my actions and so far i its doneme a world or good as i can please my boyfriend and i am willing to learn..
Im not saying your stubborn or a'cock-o-phobe', you just want to wait yea?
BUTwhat happens if your HUSBAND mostlikely, (when you lose it)is a propper nympho naturally and you dont know what to do?
Do you not want to learn now and give all of yor experience and share it with who you want to mrry later, knowing you can please him ?
Mabey its because i didnt have much choice and i didnt value it at first, so there for i learnt up?
Or im just nympho, eager and TYPICALLY a young sex-head?
am happy and dn regret. but yea try it, dont live in the 50s ;)
...............................
A
female
reader, goodiea +, writes (25 June 2008):
yes i totaly agree with carrie, losing your viginity is supposed to be a very special moment, with someone you truly love. young girls should not feel ashamed that that havent lost it yet and should be proud of themselfs
...............................
A
female
reader, goodiea +, writes (25 June 2008):
this is a new era which saddens me to think that youngsters today are pressured into haveing sex either to fit into a group or to satisfiy friends just so you can be like them at the end of the day its you and only you that can make that decision. you have got all the time in the world live your life to the full and enjoy it.
...............................
A
male
reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 *shrug* we are all different.
The age isn't really getting younger, just that we stay kids for longer.
Don't let the media fool you into thinking that what they report is the absolute truth.
50% of marriages involve cheating. Oh my god! Yet that also means 50% do NOT! (Statistics pulled from my ass)
As an old guy, I can tell you that three years go I also read lots of stories about thirteen year old girls selling themselves to strangers for a breezer.
You were thirteen at the time so YOU and ALL your classmates sold themselves for sex, you must have done, it was in the paper!
There are still girls like you, there always have been, and there always been girls who started early and there always have been.
But one note about waiting until you are married. While I support your freedom to choose whatever you choose to do (I am not for or against waiting, I am for freedom of choice), there is a reason some choose to have sex earlier.
Sexual compatibility MATTERS in a marriage. If you wait to have sex until you say you do, you are basically taking a gamble that things will work out in the bedroom. What if it turns out you want more sex then he does? What if you two simply don't connect in the sack?
Not saying you got to jump in the sack with every guy you meet but making sure a marriage is going to work is a valid reason to have sex earlier.
I always got a soft spot for people willing to make a stand for their believes so if you want to wait till marriage good luck to you, but don't condemn other people for their life choices.
...............................
A
male
reader, Bolo +, writes (25 June 2008):
Sure, its ALWAYS better to wait for sex. Waiting is your best bet. But that doesn't mean its wrong to have it at a teenage year. Great, I'm glad you don't want to have sex. One less thing to worry about. But understand that doesn't make sex your age a bad thing. Who said sex 'has' to be a "special, beautiful thing"? You don't automatically become responsible over night when you turn 18. You can use sex in any way you want. You don't have to wait 'till marriage. Evolutionarily, puberty is the time when your suppose to have sex. Although there is an inside moral part of me that I can't explain that thinks 13 year olds having sex is just sad and... Disgusting. But I still don't have the right to say that it is tight or bad.
...............................
|
