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writes: I have been seeing my boyfriend for two years, he works away.I never saw the distance as a problem because I love him dearly, looked forward to being with him and we both shared the travelling.He said he felt the same, but because of his current financial situation him being in debt we hadn't made any solid plans for the future. Anyway we got to meet up xmas eve, he bought me a bracelet, we had a fantastic time together and made love.Everything seemed normal, he wasn't edgy or acting unuasual in anyway. We both spent Xmas with our own parents, but he didn't contact me for a few days.He didn't respond to my calls either or my messages until today, when he told me he's just started a new realtionship with someone else and to leave him alone. Its a bolt out of the blue I'm devastated.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 You must be in shock and disbelief after hearing that your bf called you saying to leave him alone because he found another girl!! Even after he bought you a christmas gift and you had a wonderful time with him!!
I hope that you will find someone else that is deserving of you and will treat you like a queen!! You sure deserve it. You don't need a man like that who would do that to you!!
It might be hard for you to think of finding another man at this time, but time heals all hurts!! Believe me, it does!
My thoughts and prayers go out for you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2006): First I am very sorry this happened to you and I am sure after the nice Christmas that you had with him that this is very confusing and painful....but know this, it is nothing about you that caused this, he is just not the guy for you, because if he is not able to talk about a future with you because of some debt that he has, then he is not the guy you need anyway.....you are amazing, you loved him anyway and you are able to bond and make a commitment even traveling to maintain your relationship....he desires you sexually, he respects you and honors you with a gift, but he just can't offer you what you need and deserve.
If he said to leave him alone he has a new girl, then I would just declare, well you can't have us both, and break up with him! You have to do this or he will lose respect for you, don't call him, don't beg, don't sell him on you, just walk away...and start dating other men....why would you want to take yourself out of the dating market if this guy has not offered you a solid reason to do so?
Long distance relationships are hard, and unless there is a reason to hang in, like future plans, it is best to just let them go as a romance and move on to someone new.
Hang in there, buy a book or a favorite movie, have a good cry and you will feel better I promise.
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