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writes:Ok we are talk about how we are suppose to love the person who we are with for who they are and it is not all about sex?But now guys, if your girlfriend told you she did not want to sleep with you for a while how many months would you give her. This is after you had good sex for a while. Would she still be your girlfriend after a few months? How many of you would be in the relationship in a years time? Would it be causing any issues? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Like the other posts - if there was some reasonable reason then yes but if there was no good reason I wouldn't wait long.
If you had been seeing each other a while and then wanted to stop I would think "why?" Your reason for wanting to know each other better really only says you're uncertain about the relationship and want to back off which isn't very encouraging.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): If there isn't some legitimate medical reason. No. Especially if we had been going at it already. Would I wait for the initial sex. Yes, if she were worth it. But would I stay if it was cut off completely. I'd stick around for about one month and then find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I mean a couple of weeks of going at it pretty strong, more than once. Not long.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Depends why, a though pregnancy, injury, disease etc etc are all valid reasons, no real time limit of course.
If you just don't want it for no reason, well then that would be pretty hurtful, just ask the many women who post questions about why their man only looks at porn and doesn't touch them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): The first thing to ask is why the change. You are listed as a late 30s female. If this is accurate then are you wanting to do this with your boyfriend? If so, why? Do you still want to see him, but not have sex? Do you just want a break? If you just don't want sex, is it for moral reasons, just don't like it, just wanting to see if he wants you for more than sex, etc? All of these things make a difference. As far as I am concerned, a break at that age allows both individuals to date others.
My wife and I both think that sex and closeness are very important to a relationship when both individuals are adults. Neither one of us has ever had this happen to us, but we both think that we would wonder what was wrong and start looking for another relationship after a few weeks. Not necessarily breaking off the current relationship completely, but not just waiting for the situation to improve either.
The reason for this change of thinking is critical to the answering of your question. Some people may say that if he loves you that he will wait forever. Well, BS. That is not realistic. The same goes if the guy says that to the woman. The reason for this is really necessary to answer your question with any real meaningfullness.
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (29 April 2008):
If you truly love somebody, something will be there forever. Life without sex and intimacy is truly painful though, and we all need to get it somewhere, if only for our own well being. I would always love her, but would do all I could to get sex early and often. If I found someone that reciprocated, I would ultimately want to be with just her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Thanks for you answer. Now would you still say the same if you had been going out for a short time, started having sex then suddenly she wanted to stop because she felt she did not know you well enough?
Wouldn't you think, why? We have done it anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Why would she want to say that? If there was no reason given then I would assume she has been unfaithful and is avoiding the risk of passing on any STDs to me!!!
Seriously, if you're that insecure with your guy, then don't be with him.
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