A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Everything's going a bit wrong here. My mum's new boyfriend has moved in and he's making life a real misery. He mostly ignores me, but if he does talk to me it's only to tell me to fetch a beer from the fridge. When he's been to the pub he's even woese, shouting at my mum and me for no good reasonMum doesn't seem to care- she says I'm being over sensitive, but i don't think i am. She'so so wrapped up in her boyfriend I don't think she notices anything, including me. I don't think i can stand it much longer. I'm thinking about running away. What do you think i should do?What reasons should i stay home and not run away and what are the dangers of running away?What ways can i imporve life at home?Any other advise would be nice, thanks you for your time. ALEX
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Oi vay..
I myself was in a situation like this.
And you're not gonna like what i have to say. in fact you're gonna hate it.
If your mum is being blinded by her infatuation and fear of being alone then.. yeah this guy will continue to be an ass.
the problem is the bf dispises you. because.. you and him are in competition for your mothers attention. i have been there and i was...22? so it don't matter what age you arn't its always the same.
theres a few thigns i'd recommend for you to do.
sit down and talk to your mum. don't shout. don't raise your voice and remain calm as possible even if she starts screaming and shouting.. just relax and be respectful and peaceful about it, Theres good reason for this. then it happens you'll know.
If she's just shrugging off the subject and changes or or belittles it. challenge her. ask her why she's so scared to face you and answer a few questions.
she'll either crack and tell you. or scream and shout. or do nothing at all.
if she doesn't acknowledge the questions then..
Well. you have a hard desicion to make. Get a job after school. and save your money. put it in a bank account. don't knwo how to open one? walk into a bank and say " i want to open a bank account" stay in school and then go to work and save up, once you leave school. go full time in work and get your own flat or even a house share and move out.
changing things at home don't happen over night.
running away will only make your life worse.
where you going to go? where you going to live? what you gonna eat? where you gonna sleep?
the dangers? Death being the main one. being imprisoned in a basement like that women on the news. being picked up by strangers and being molested. and not the hot lesbian fantasy but the 2 big guys named bubba and roger.
if you can't talk to your mum. then consider getting out of the house more with friends or like i said a job so you have money coming in and then you can save up and move out. then you're the man of the hosue and you can make your own rules.
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