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writes:[OP Original title]Hi there,A General Question.Given the chance, how many of you would contact/meet up with yr 1st Love....and would you do it if you were married/in a realtionship?Cheers Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom  +, writes (10 August 2010):
Thanks, "Miamine" - for a while there I was thinking I was the only one around here who was curious about old friends.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Would meet my 1st love, would tell my partner.. it's always nice to meet old friends.. make sure you meet them in a public space, and if you find that you would like to see them again, make sure your partner comes along the next time..
Don't forget to tell your partner everything that happened and everything you talked about.. partner's can get jealous but when your honest and open, you reassure them that your just curious and they have nothing to worry about...
This depends on your partner though.. I'm not jealous and I don't choose jealous partners...
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reader, daletom +, writes (10 August 2010):
Since I am the only one who seemed willing to meet my first love . . . I guess I'm obligated to answer the question.
Yes, I'd let my wife know. In fact - we have even discussed it, casually, a time or two over the years. She is in favor of it. As awkward as it sounds, I'd even like to have my wife meet my first love.
Forty years ago I thought my first love (Patty) was a wonderful person. I hope that's still true. It certainly hurt to break up but there was nothing shameful about our relationship or actions. We interacted on intellectual and emotional as well as physical levels. It caused me to start thinking about the person I wanted as a wife and life-partner. We never had sex with each other, although she taught me a lot about making love to a woman.
My wife and I respect and admire each other's choice of friends and acquaintances. We have shared many acquaintances, of both sexes, over the years - some as mutual friends, others more attracted to one of us or the other. There has never been anything threatening about it. She knows about Patty, and how I felt about her, and what that relationship was like for me. I know much the same about her "old boyfriends" - we even visited one a couple of times (like us, he's now very married) and I appreciate that my wife makes good choices when it comes to guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk,
For those who would meet thier 1st love...would you tell yr current partner?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 August 2010):
Hell no! First loves are the nightmare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): No, it is not appropriate to be thinking or contacting or meeting up with your "first love". If you are married or in a relationship, and you love your mate, then you do not do things behind her back that would be questionable in nature, which includes the contacting up with the "first love". If you are married or in a relationship, your goal should be to please her, and that would surely piss her off to say the least. And when you join up with your mate, your heart and her heart become one. Now, you have two hearts, to expand the love of Christ to the ones you already know, and to the ones you meet. And the love of Christ is not of the carnal nature, btw.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Im married and I wouldnt meet up with my first love. I trust myself and love my husband very much but those are some dangerous waters to tread. There's no telling what my ex might do or say, he's got a way with words..Once when I was engaged he invited me to show he happened to be playing in (bass player, yikes) my state TN he's from IL, I thought about it then declined bc u never know what could happen. So why put urself in that situation?
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reader, daletom +, writes (6 August 2010):
I am VERY married (36 years this month).
The first girl I loved happened 4 years before I met my wife, and lasted about 6 months. I think we could have had a successful, fulfilling marriage. In retrospect, I see that my wife is better suited to be my partner than my first love was, but I wonder how much of that is because I loved Patty when I was 18 but met my wife at age 22.
I would VERY MUCH like to meet her again. Not even remotely thinking about re-starting anything - or to prove anything - but just to know how here life has turned out. I truly hope she is happy and loved, and I have only the best thoughts for her.
(Patty, did you see this?)
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