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*anleo25
writes:Hi there,I'm currently stuck with a dilemna!!!!! I just recently got married (2months) and my father in law came to us and asked if we would maybe consider moving into their home to help take any extra strain on my mother in law, who is very sick, just to help out and be there to keep and eye. Now we have got our own house which we'll rent out if we should go that route. I understand that she is sick but its also a matter of giving up my own space, our time to grow as newly weds and not living with having to consider other people all the time.Yet I also c the benefits of moving in with them as it gives us time to save our cash as their wouldn't be a bond over our heads anymore.Please help!! Should we go for it and be there for them or is it a recipe for disaster???? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 This maybe a knee -jerk reaction, but I vote for : sure recipe for disaster. Newly weds need to grow their intimacy and their own relationship dynamics in their own private space. Since you live close by, you can make an extra effort to make yourself very available for visisting, helping out, assisting your in laws the best you can , go the extra mile to suit your schedule to your needs... but no, don't give up the privacy of your newborn family unit to merge in a bigger one.
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reader, danleo25 +, writes (18 July 2011):
danleo25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe live close enough to them already! That's why I don't understand why its so important that we move in with them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 July 2011):
 agreed that he has to make sure you are comfortable.. is there a compromise you can come up with? move closer to them perhaps?
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reader, danleo25 +, writes (16 July 2011):
danleo25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thanx for the responses!!! Much appreciated. @ so very confused: yes to all the above and my husband feels that he should be there for them as it is his perants after all but also in the same breathe he has to go with what make me comfortable and happy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 July 2011):
will you have your own space... your own bedroom, your own bathroom your own sitting area? will meals be shared as a family... will you have a set space and time for aloneness?
Do you like your inlaws?
how does their son feel about this?
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