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writes:hey, i'm 20 and ive been with my boyfriend for 2 an a half years. he is going to bournmouth uni in september and i'm worried about him going to strip clubs. he has never been to one before. Would most girlfriends be ok with their boyfriends going to strip clubs with their mates? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): Has he expressed any interest in visiting strip clubs or are you just worrying out of the blue because he'll be farther away and making new friends?Does Bournemouth have a reputation for this sort of thing or something?The thought of strip clubs bores me so my partner tagging along once or twice for lunch with co-workers probably wouldn't phase me. If he expressed any real interest in them then he would start to bore me. I'm no prude. I just find them common, predictable and adolescent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): Personally i wouldn't like it much if my 'better?' half, paid to go watch other women taking their clothes off. I like to think he's slightly more enlightened than that. But i am afraid its just one of those things some men like to do. It beggars belief that even after so many thousands of years sharing the planet with us, some can still be fascinated with our bodies that they will even part with hard earned cash just to look at them but there ya go! As long as he doesn't drink too much and get silly, he should be ok. Just make sure you also get the green light from him to 'view' other mens bodies while he is away because what's good for the goose....
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reader, llifton  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 nah, i wouldn't worry too much about it. i wouldn't be thrilled with it, don't get me wrong, but i wouldn't be too upset. only if he began frequenting strip clubs would i then begin to have a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): I wouldn't be ok with it unless i'm there with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): it's two years of dating if it was me i'd trust him only if he didn't do anything to lose my trust before
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reader, Lilyxoxo  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Unless you want to break up, then no. She's going to be so annoyed .
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (22 May 2011):
I think I would just bite my tongue and trust him on this if he's been loyal all this time. If you feel the need to say something I would say this: "Have fun, I trust you not to do anything stupid." And then leave it at that.
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reader, Abella +, writes (22 May 2011):
 I would be disappointed, but would prefer to be honestly told that he had been there.
And I'd tell him that a private lap dance for him or a private strip is available for him, at home.
That said, he probably will go, spend an insane amount on drinks, and be cheered as a great success if he does allow the dancer to put on a display by dancing sexily in front of him. Men do what men know they can get away with. Hopefully he will not get too aroused, and just see it as 'boy fun'.
But unless he starts a relationship with the dancer (very very very unlikely) then surely he will come back to you, all the same.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Hi
Do you have any trust issues with your BF? has he given you any reason to not trust him before? if you anwsered no then I would say let him go along, his with the lads, and it's just a bit of fun . If you dont agree with strip clubs as many women dont, then I would tell him how this is making you feel, see what he say's. Me personally I dont agree with women exploiting their body's in this way. however these women are just doing a job, 99% of these women have NO interest in the men who are in the club, they are only interested in earning their money, and going home.
hope this helps x
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