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writes:I am a married woman of 11 years with 2 boys and i have been having problems with my marriage from day one. Things have been rocky because my husband has trust issues with me for something i did before we gotten married.... he said he forgave me but obviously he hasn't. Being the woman that has been raised to work her marriage out and hope for the best i over looked all the emotional abuse...and maybe sometimes i even felt like i deserved to be treated poorly. Right into the 11 year mark i feel very emotional empty i feel like i dont have any support where it comes to the kids we have no communication and most of all i feel very alone. My husband just recently gotten in a motorcylce accident and now he is out from work. So things are pretty tight as far finances is concerned. I came to him as a wife to determine our options for staying afloat all he could say is i dont know what to tell you...but i need to continue on pay on my bike ( mind you a bike that almost killed him) Would i be wrong for thinking about leaving him the state that he is in now? Because at this point i cant take anymore.
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reader, Evans  +, writes (18 December 2009):
Madam, I am a man. I know what it is to be hurt by a loved one especially if it is a matter of trust.11 years of bitterness from your man. He thought time would heal him but that will never happen. I am in the same situation and actually divorcing my wife after 8 years of marriage. I suggest you free this man and pack your bags. Joy and happiness will never come with time coz he will constantly feel cheated. I believe you were not honest with him. Reap what you sow madam.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 December 2009):
No, I don't think so at all. I think we know where he stands. You did something wrong, and he has used it against you ever since. 11 years is a long time. I'm not saying you can get over being hurt. but I am saying when the words 'I forgive you' are spoken, they're supposed to mean something. and if all he cares about is his bike, I would suggest you move on and be happy.
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