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writes:dear cupid i really need your help. im 19 and my brother is 22. for years he and his 3 best friends were inseperable and i was always tagged along. i wasn't one of "the guys" i was the annoying little tag along sister ever since i was 15. i stayed out of the way for the most part and learned as much as i could about life and love. about a year ago they got into a fight and my brother is no longer close with them. one of the friends "john" wants to date me now?? i never looked at him like that but ive thought about it for a few weeks now and maybe i could see him as more than a friend. would i be doing my brother wrong for getting with his old best friend because they don't exactly like each other and i know it would make my brother angry and i would never do anything to hurt my brother i love him very much but what if this could turn into something real? id really like some advice if anyone can help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): It is none of your brother's business who myou date. You owe him nothing.If HE can't deal with his own emotions and lets his own hate force a wedge between you, thats HIS problem and not yours.Date this guy if you want to. And don't listen to a word your brother says. If this guy turns out to be a douche, then so be it, he turns out to be a douche.But until he either does, or doesn't... date away.Flynn 24
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Yes it would. The dating pool of the world is huge. Millions and millions of people......WHy pick the one person that might place a wedge between you and your brother? I would be willing to bet, that a year from now, you wouldn't even be able to remember this guys name. Give your brother a break and look somewhere else.
I do applaud you for asking this forum. It shows that do you care about your brother's feeling and only want confirmation about the right choice.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2010):
I'm sure you like this guy, and maybe it could be more. But if your brother does not get on with them, you are going to find yourself in a very difficult situation. Imagine if it's your birthday, and 'John' is there. Your brother won't turn up. Imagine the same at Christmas, Easter, then your wedding. The imagine you have kids and your brother won't see them. I know this sounds very over the top, but I think you need to understand that if you go out with a former friend of your brother's, who he does not get on with because of a fight, he is under no obligation to ever take any notice of him or any kind of celebration that you and him share. You'll find your brother will simply pull away.
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