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writes:Met this great guy online, like me he's been a single a year. We have a lot in common and have spent hours laughing on the phone for the time we've known each other. Our first date was great, we were comfortable with one another almost right away. Anyway, our first kiss was brief and kind of awkward-but the second? OMG! We couldn't stop kissing! People would stare, we'd blush and feel shy but then, go at it again! We didn't touch our drinks at all! Just talking, joking and kissing. We left the lounge, went to his car and made out. He admitted that he really wanted me. We held hands throughout the night and our drive to my place. He kissed me good night and I went to bed thinking of him. We have another date tomorrow and I'm kind of nervous cause we'll be at his place watching a movie marathon of a series we both love. The chemistry is so strong- would it be horrible to have sex on the second date?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2015): Sleep with a "keeper" as quickly as you would sleep with a meaningless fling. He is showing long term potential so he should be rewarded for that, not punished.
If that turns out to be too soon for this "keeper" and he loses interest, then your values just don't match and its better to find out early.
Making a keeper wait longer than a fling is pretending to have a different value set than you really do. That is far less respectable than merely sleeping with guys too quickly IMO.
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reader, jls022  +, writes (19 July 2015):
I think that since you are a grown woman, you should be able to do what you want to do. HOWEVER, we get so many posts here from women saying the guy lost interest after she slept with him too soon and from men saying their feelings changed overnight and/or they lost respect for the woman after she slept with him too quickly.
I know and hate this double standard as they too had sex early on, but unfortunately it does seem to be common judging by what I read on here. So if you would like it to become something more serious than sex only, then I'd advise you to wait a bit longer. And I'd suggest moving the date from his house to a more public location.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2015): No,it's not horrible. But I'd make him wait.
Don't go to his place for a 2nd date unless you want to be FWB.
Make him wait and chase ya a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2015): Don't fo it untill you know him better , in my experience online fating is full of players and narcisist trying to score. Wait a few weeks make him work for it .
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