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*osox2020
writes:I graduated from high school last year, and there was a girl I liked who was a freshman. She had a boyfriend for all of last year, so I didn't really get the chance to be with her. I'm in college now, and I found out that she and her boyfriend broke up over the summer. She really seems mature for her age, and we started talking online. It's just hard because i'm away at college, and she is back at home. I think if we keep going like this, we would have a shot at dating, i'm just not sure if that would be okay because of the ages?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 October 2013):
 I think the main problem is the age of consent for sexual activity in the US - if you were in the UK, where it is 16, then you might not have so much of a problem. But chances are in your state the age of consent is 18, so she still has 3 years to go, and could you honestly say you are not going to want to do nothing sexual with her in the next 3 years if you were dating?
You are a young man, of course you are going to want sex or some sort of sexual activity. Which means if you choose to do it with a 15 year old, her parents could easily report you to the police and because you are now an adult, it would be statutory rape and you would go to prison.
Honestly I just dont think it is worth the hassle. Yes you might like her and she might like you, but there are plenty of other girls out there closer to your own age where you wont go to prison for having fun with them. Because the age gap is 3 years as well that has stronger legal implications than for example if the girl were only 1 year younger and still not at the age of consent.
Combine this with a long distance relationship and you really have got trouble on your hands. Try and find a girl you like at college, this is the time you should be having fun and growing into an adult, not clinging on to your early teenage years and lurking around at home. The future is at college with young adults like yourself, not back at home with children like her. I know she might seem mature but no 15 year old is mature, they give a good impression of it but if you got into a relationship with her you'd soon see her true colours and the hormones and immaturity that come with being 15.
It really is not worth the risk of prison and the hardship of a LDR all for the sake of a 15 year old, try meeting girls at college you will have much more fun and dont run the risk of getting into trouble with the law.
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reader, Bosox2020 +, writes (17 October 2013):
Bosox2020 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe just turned 15, i'm turing 18 in a few weeks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 October 2013):
 ok so if you graduated last year you are about 19 now
if she was a freshman last year that's grade 9 and that's about age 15
so let's assume you are about 19 and she is about 16
in many states any sexual contact between you two would be technically illegal.
if you are talking online and getting along online I can't see why you can't continue to pursue this.... and let it go where it goes..... the issue is you are away at school and she's got 2.5 more years of high school and maturing and growing and so many things can change for her and for you (away at college)
If her parents are responsible however, they have hopefully forbidden her to date boys who are over 18 (I would) at this point. It's safer for her and for you.
but becoming friends is not an issue.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 October 2013):
yeah telling us how old you both are tends to help.....
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reader, desiree075  +, writes (16 October 2013):
How can we properly help you if you don't even mention what your ages are?
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