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writes:So, for the last two school years, I've known this guy. About the second half of last year, we became pretty good friends, but it was pretty much just at school. Over the summer, we barely texted or anything. Well, this school year, I think we got closer as friends, and started texting for like three hours a night. Naturally, I started liking him, and I began to tell him stuff that I didn't tell anyone else about, like my history of self harm (that he also had) and little stuff like that. And, I kind of started flirting with him and stuff at school. One night, he texted me one of those chain texts that are like "[Name] and ____ would make a cute couple!" I told him I didn't want to answer, but he kept pushing me to, so I suggested a girl we hang out with, let's call her "Beth". He just asked why, and I told him it was because they had a lot in common, which they did. But, I really wanted to tell him that me and him would make a cute couple. But, I didn't, and I felt kind of like a martyr for doing that. Well, that was like a month ago. About a week ago, my two closest friends found out that I liked him and started teasing me about it, even in front of the guy. I was embarrassed, and I think he knew what was going on. Well, tonight, he IM'd me and told me he was really happy. I asked why, and he said it was because he was dating someone. It's Beth. I have no idea what to do now. Beth's a pretty nice girl, but she's not really my friend. So, I'm having trouble being happy for her. As soon as he told me, I felt like the breath got knocked out of me. Then, I started crying; Beth is pretty, blond, popular. I'm overweight and shy, but I really felt like this guy liked me. I feel like it might just be appearance that made him ask her out. Or maybe it was because I gave him the idea. So, on Monday, how should I act? My school is kind of alternative, and we spend the whole day in one "class", meaning with the same people, so I'll have to see them together all day. Right now, I feel like I'll just be a bitch to him, but I don't want to. Would it be lame to stop being his friend over this? Because that's what I feel like doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): do you know what, i get the vibe that you really like this person, the one thing you should'nt do is stop being friends because, it would make things soo much more akward, with you and him, even worse than you could think just act normal and there will be a stage when everything will be back to normal. it might be a bit akward at first but still try to act as normal as you can.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 maybe he only sees you as a best friend, and this is a gd thing.
But you want mre than this, so play the waiting game. Once they break up, he wnt fancy her again.
Then you have a chance to make your move, as relationships dont usually last that long. sad to be said, but on the plus side, less time for you 2 wait! :S
i hope i helped :S
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 October 2009):
I think he was interested in you, but because you didn't tell him or show any interest, he moved on. It would be sad to stop being friends with him, but you do need to allow yourself time to step back and get over him. Make sure you still say and such, but spend more time on your other friendships. You will fidn another guy, so dont let this knock your cofidence. He wasn't the guy for you, that's how you have to look at it.
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