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writes:I need some advice again with a problem that is really driving me mad.I'm a 32AA, I'm about 2cm away from being totally flat chested.I wear padded bras nearly every time I go out or my clothes look stupid and if I'm on a night out I'm completely ignored while all my friends are chatted up (this is not my imagination, it's really noticeable compared to when I go out with padded one).I'm always worrying whether they're looking normal or if people can tell they're padded, I don't hug or touch anyone just incase they notice and I never go to the beach for obvious reasons.On the other had I'm also well aware that if I wasn't afraid of what other people would think of them, I wouldn't hate or have a problem with them. They're not much to look at but they're convenient (e.g for sports), sensitive and healthy. I also am not overly comfortable when I do get male attention and the thought that men would just be staring at my breasts if they were larger really puts me off.So I suppose what I would like people's opinions on is do you think I'll ultimately end up regretting it if I do get implants or would I find that going up to a small B would give me more confidence and would stop me worrying and therefore I would be happy I went for it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012): Actually, some men like small breasts, and if you look at the fashion models (not glamour models) they tend to be quite flat chested - it's stylish to be sleek. Look at Keira Knightley. So it's up to you. Don't get implants unless it is really something you want.
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reader, Aemita  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Ultimately it is up to YOU! No matter how many people will reply to you, no matter what kind of reasons they will give you.. in the end it will always be your decision.
Now, from personal experience, i am quite small as well (i am a 32A.. but when i put some weight on i almost was a B). Generally speaking, i am a member of the IttyBittyTittyCommittee (oh i love that term). When i was a teenager i used to absolutely HATE that.. i was always unapproachable, always scared that someone will find out i'm wearing padded bras...
OK, move forward a good chunk of years and here i am! Being more confident than ever, and getting more male attention than i could ever want or need! Never has a man cared that i was small chested. Actually for a strange reason (which i cannot understand yet), whenever i go out in a strapless dress, all men give me mad attention! So it's not like you suddenly become unattractive, just because you don't have a huge chest! Trust me on that!
Otherwise, it all depends on you honey. You have to be comfortable in your own skin. TO be confident enough to know that a small chest or a huge chest, does NOT define who you are as a person and as a human being on this earth. If people avoid you because of the way your body looks, screw them! They're not worth your time. If guys only pay attention to you only when you're wearing padded bras, double-screw them! They are not worth your energy! They are just looking for a quick fix and nothing more. A man that wants a solid relationship, will want to get to your mind and not your body.
My advice would be to give some more time. Don't jump into something you might regret.
Take care dear!
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reader, Aunt Liz  +, writes (30 May 2012):
I know a woman who got implants. She was very sure about what she wanted, did the research and picked the best options for her. She was very happy with the result. It's a personal decision and only you can say if it is right for you. But like all good decisions you need good information first. Do the research, talk to a doctor or two, talk to women who have had it done. Make a list of pro's and con's, it sounds like you have already started one. It might also be a good time to talk to someone about your feelings, a counsellor or a trusted friend, might help you really examine this question from all angles. Take your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012): I've been playing with the thought of implants for 5 years now. Sometimes it's really difficult when you see yourself in the mirror, and other days can be better. I've often thought how much more confident I'd be with implants, and I KNOW I would be much better off. I've done quite a lot of research, and even watched the surgery being done on a patient, but I keep coming back to the same 'issues' in my mind. Number 1, they don't last, and you will need to get them done again, be that 5 or 10 years down the road. 2, If you ever decide later on to get them removed, your breasts will most likely not look the same. 3, The complications; loss of sensation, asymmetry, deflation, bottoming out, capsular contracture, extrusion, and infection(these are just a few of the possible complications.)
...Ultimately, it's a decision that can alter your life in both a positive OR negative way. Although I feel very strongly about them, I'll probably try to accept myself the way I am, and stick with the good ol' push up bra's. Really really think about this, cause if your unsure in the slightest, you shouldn't do it.
Best of luck!~
Just some websites to to help you determine if it's worth it:
http://www.realself.com/Breast-implants/reviews
http://www.lookingyourbest.com/info/breastimplant-complications.php
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