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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): Thanks so much for all your answers. CaringGuy, you've said it well :)
I do want to go but wasn't too sure if I'd be welcome. I'm going to go and be there for him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 March 2010):
'You're welcome to come' is the male way of saying 'I need you there'. So yes, go.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (18 March 2010):
You are paying your respects and supporting him at this sad affair!
I am confused - what do you want a written invitation, either you go or not it is no big deal?
You are being awkward - maybe you do not want to go and if that is the case then 'don't go'.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 If you don't go , then there will be serious questions about your credibility .
Since your b/f has said that you can come ,there should not be any lingering doubts or questions.
You should be there to provide moral and emotional support for your b/f and his family.
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reader, jada101  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 You should go and be there for him it will show him that your gonna be there for good times and bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): thanks for the input guys
He has told me that I am part of his family, so I think it would be a good idea to go.
thanks again :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 You should definitely go. He's your boyfriend; you're in an intimate relationship and suppporting one another is part of that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): i think you should go. C Grant has it right in my opinion. Mal
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reader, DSRW +, writes (18 March 2010):
If you two are as serious as you say, Its seems that he is inviting you to the funeral as part of the family, And as support to help him through the tough time
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reader, springluv2 +, writes (18 March 2010):
would you want someone to come to your funeral. lol.. its just a funeral not a wedding.. you should go because you support him while your their.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): Of course you should go. In a relationship you should share the good and the bad. When my grandmother died 3 years ago I was glad my then boyfriend was there with me. Sometimes I think about what I would do if my only grandfather dies because I'm currently very single and he is very old.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 I suppose it depends on what kind of funeral it is. If it's held at a church or a funeral home and there will be more people than just family attending, then by all means you certainly should go. Your place is at his side.
On the other hand, if it's just going to be him and his parents and a few other close family members, then you should explain to him your concern about imposing. Let it be his call.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (18 March 2010):
 I wouldn't go. Just send your condolences. If you want to support him call him every night to check up on him. My boyfriend's (of 1 1/2 years) brother died. I don't know his family well. I asked for a copy of the eulogy written by his daughter, it was very touching and sad.
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reader, dummyduckling +, writes (18 March 2010):
 To be honest i think he was being nice aswell as it being an invite, if you want to go for support by all means go. He has said your welcome to so he obviously wants you there for support or at least that what it seems like to me.
i hope that helped x
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