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writes:Hey all, im really sorry for posting this problem Again..(and again and again) However new details have emerged. Ok so my boyfriend of over 2yrs sent a msg to a girl sayin "she cant be more unreal than you.ha are you setting me up.ha" I know this coz he sent it to me by mistake.He said it was just a girl he used to work with but now 3 mths later i hear it was his ex. He eventually decided to tell me the truth...dat she txt him out of the blue...he later went to a diff pub that night where he bumped in2 her and chatted with her for about an hour and a half (he said he knew she would be there as she said she might be heading there) So while i was at home crying after receiving that message ringing him bout 5 times he was too busy to answer the fone coz he was chattin 2her.(i was ignored for up to an hour)He said they didnt kiss or anything, i do believe that coz she is also in a long term relationship, says he loves me and no1 else and he is sorry he cant explain it...says he just acted the fool that night.I do think that he enjoyed the flirt. He keeps asking me back..i do love him but would i be a fool..will he hurt me again. I just dont know what to do i really dont.Im 24 yrs old and i just dont have a clue what to do next..p.s thank you everyone who took the time to reply to my last questions..i appreciate it more than ye know xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): This is totally for you to find out. Maybe a bit of time apart will help you to realise whether he is what you really want and if you truly love him. Or maybe suggest a weekend away together to see if it still feels the same?As for the whole ex situation, I still talk to my ex boyfriends. Everyone enjoys a bit of flirting. Im sure it means nothing. It has to be said, men can be little SHITS sometimes! He says he loves you, and this woman is in a relationship aswell, so im sure you have nothing to worry about!The only thing I would look out for, is if he does something out of the ordinary or gets secretive about who he talks to and where he's going.If I were in your situation, Im sure I would feel the same. Just sit back and think "Im the one he goes home to" and be happy.Hope it all works out! Follow your heart!
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reader, mama2three  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 The fact that he was texting his ex, regardless of who started it, would bother me, too, but I don't know, has he ever given you reason to believe that he's cheated on you? Ever?
No one can make this decision for you, and this is a hard question to answer because it is SO easy for people to live other people's lives, make their decisions. You need to really search your heart, find out if you DO want to give him another chance or not.
Some men, when things like this happens, snap in to shape, and it makes them a WHOLE different person because they know that you're serious when you say "Don't f*** around on me or I'll kick your booty to the curb!" So they are...how do I put it...reformed :) Personally, I would give him another chance, but if your trust has been violated, let him know that he'll have to rebuild that, he'll have to rebuild your trust in him.
Oh, and if you do get together with him, DO NOT hang this over his head, ever...don't bring it up in arguments, don't joke about it...
And lastly, GOOD LUCK in whatever you decide!!!
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