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writes:me and my boyfriend are having some problems at the moment. he has been messahing other girls asking for nacked pics and chatting other girls up he says it werent him but i dont thinl i believe him. we have a lil girl together and thought we were happy.is he happy?would he cheat if he had a chance to?how do i manke im happy? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 He says it wasn’t him. So who was it? And why are they using his phone and do you really really believe that? I don’t.
Would he cheat if he had a chance to? Maybe. Many do… maybe not… only he knows this. If you don’t know him well enough to know this (for example I know my man would come to me first and ASK for permission to “hit that” but that’s because we’ve TALKED about these things in advance of becoming a permanent couple)
How do you make him happy? ONLY he knows what he needs and you will need to ASK HIM.
If you can’t bear to ask him, then you need to consider that this is not a good or healthy relationship.
You should NEVER be afraid to talk to your partner.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (19 December 2011):
 If he has been messaging other girls and you have actual PROOF (not just your word against his) then he has already been cheating on you. Yes he might not have physically cheated but he has emotionally cheated and broke your trust.
He is going behind your back, sexting other women and chatting them up - he is literally one small step away from having sex with them!
You might be happy, and he actually might be happy as well -the problem is some men (and women) simply are not happy with just one partner and cant stop themselves from looking elsewhere. It doesnt mean you are doing anything wrong, it is him that has the problem.
I think you need to talk to him more about this - find out why he is lying to you, why he feels he needs to do this with other women and how he is going to work on this to make it stop. If he keeps on denying this then you really should be worried - if he lies despite you having proof then he cannot be trusted and you should seriously think about ending this relationship.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, N91 +, writes (19 December 2011):
 Yes, of course he would. He's asking for naked pictures of other people, if he had a naked girl infront of him do you think he'd say no? Especially when you know he's been doing this stuff already.
You need to have a serious talk with him, lay down the law. You're a family and he's looking to cheat, either boot him out now, or give him one more chance before ending it, it's your call, but imo he'd definately cheat given the chance.
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reader, rivi +, writes (19 December 2011):
if he says it was not him messaging them how do you know it was ?
If you have absolute proof he has been asking other girls for pics you can only ask HIM what he needs from you that he feels he is not getting.
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