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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a small crush on this teacher I had back in high school. It's not too big of an issue-- I'm two years into college and in a long-term relationship and he's been married since I've known him. I'm certainly not expecting anything to come of it. But since I'm continuing on in his field, I've gone back to see him twice now on breaks and each time he seems to get more and more excited to see me. The first time he asked me to chaperone an event with him (which I had to turn down, due to a previous commitment) and told me I had to come back and read something with him, and then the last time he was giving me all kinds of advice about grad school and he told me to keep coming to visit every time I was back home and generally keep him in the loop with respect to how I'm doing. Two small things threw me a little though: he asked me where I lived and thought for a second I said a street adjacent to where he just moved, and seemed noticeably disappointed when I corrected him and he also gave me two hugs in the span of maybe thirty minutes, which isn't really like him, although he did seem to notice and occasionally comment on changes in my appearance of what I was wearing more than most teachers back when I was in school.I guess I'd just be interested in getting an outsider's perspective on this. Is this a normal relationship for a teacher and a former student, or could there possibly be something more at play?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Sorry but who cares?! As you said yourself, he is married and you are in a relationship. Therefore regardless of how he feels, nothing can come of it. So why is it important to know if he likes you? Even if I said 'yes he likes you' - nothing can happen, you cant do anything with that information therefore it is completely irrelevant.
Stop obessing about whether he likes you or not and move on. It sounds like he is trying to be helpful and wants to see you do well, which is great. Dont look a gift horse in the mouth as they say - he is trying to help so accept it, be grateful and dont question it.
Knowing whether he has feelings for you makes no impact on your life, so let it drop and move on.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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