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*adieb
writes:Hi Guys, This may seem stupid but I've got a problem. I'm quite a big girl well actually I'm fat and that I have accepted, but when it comes to attention from men etc I can't handle it and get all self concious as I can't get over the fact if they seen me naked and have sex with me they will be repulsed and turned off. I'm quite a bubbly girl and by no means shy but as soon as interest is received I totally bottle it and get really self concious.Am I right to think that these blokes will be repulsed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Assuming a guy is interested in getting in bed with you :
Well hmm I think the guy will sense you are feeling the way you describe. But don't let it think it will stop them ^^. They'll be banging yur brains out in no time!
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reader, jumpsuit01  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Absolutely not! your beautiful. no matter how big you are. I am chubby, and i have always been self conscious of my body. But If you believe your beautiful everyone else will to all you need is confidence. Plus If you find that guy he will love you no matter what you look like. I have even gotten bigger since meeting my boyfriend of 3 years and he doesn't care. he does encourage me to lose weight because he knows it bothers me. So just be yourself, love yourself, and enjoy life before it passes you by.
Good luck xxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): I'm also a plus sized woman, and let me tell you... men who like big women, have seen other naked big women. You have nothing to feel self-conscious about. They know you're big, they pretty much know to expect and clearly, they don't care. In fact, they LOVE it. All of our rolls, bellies, big boobs and butts and whatnot. Turns them on.
Don't ask me why... just enjoy it like i do! :-)
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reader, jadieb +, writes (5 March 2009):
jadieb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh guys your responses so far are amazing your right the ones who make me feel bad are just going to be ignored and when i get chatted up i will go at it with confidence! Well i will try to do it that way..........
Much appreciated i really mean that
J xx
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reader, loving arms +, writes (5 March 2009):
Babe if someone chats you up, has and forms a relationship with you, take my word for it, there is no way on earth they will be put off by what's under the wrapping.
We choose people we fancy and therefore we want the whole package. Be happy being yourself babe. Have you not heard the saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Go out and live xxx
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reader, coochy78  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Please do not feel this way. If a guy has a problem with you in anyway you should not sleep with him. if he loves you he will not care about he way you look. it is the person inside that count. never let this asshole for a world change this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): no not at all, obviously for them to even think about taking you to bed, they have probably got a rough ides about what's underneath your clothes..
so DON"T WORRY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): no you aren't right. men like all sorts. no actually men love all sorts. some like thin girls (the ones who can play the xylophone on the ribs, some like big girls to hold and feel smothered in.
men like everything, its finding the right man that's really very important. One who love you as you.
Hugs, star.x
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (5 March 2009):
 To put it bluntly, if you're a big girl unclothed, then you're a big girl clothed. You need to trust that if a guy is interested in you, then he is interested in all of you. He can see that you're bigger, and if he wants to hook up with you, then it obviously isn't a problem to him.
I understand being self concious though, it happens to the best of us, boys and girls alike. But if you're as bubbly and extroverted as you say, then I would trust that that winning personality will bring a fine caliber of blokes knocking on your door :-)
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