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writes:I was with someone for over 5 yrs. Almost 2 weeks ago we split as per usual. Think our record has been 2 weeks without breaking up. Always the same thing cropping up again and again. Lets just say some would call it cheating. Last week i realised i was looking at girls for the first time in years and know i never did before,although she never wasted time herself. I have had an invitation to visit someone i met abroad who visits the Uk yearly. She is not an ex but over all the years never gave up. I never answered her letters,but she still wrote about twice a year and sent cards. She has told me i am welcome to stay with her for as long as it takes and not to worry about anything. I know one or 2 people who live near her. I have been unable to ever link up with her in the UK as i was not single. Would getting away from everything at this moment be a good move. I have house and a couple of ties i will miss. All else i have got is an ex wife who cant take no for an answer and an on off relationship with someone who thinks she is single when i cant see her. Its not a chance that i will get again. I'm feeling desperately unhappy. I cant see anything good about my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): The only problem u have is an excuse for a girlfriend. You need to move away from her before you move anywhere else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): I think you are failing to realise that moving and the girl in question are a package. If you want to give it a try then I wouldnt hesitate. i think its not the right time to go into a relationship. remember all women are different. not everyone cheats and deceives. you have had an unfaithful one so make sure your trust and thoughts are in one piece. i would say wait 3 months before you do anything. far too soon yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): I would say go,but after reading female anonymous,she`s got a point. The woman from abroad is going to believe she`s got her dream guy. This in time will turn to confrontation when she realizes you love someone else. I think you are not over who you love,but have accepted its beyond repair. At this stage the woman you go to is very fond of you a lot more than you realize.Does she deserve to get hurt? Yes,go,but go because you want to,not because its a means to an end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): You have been in a relationship and it doesn't look like you have totally let go. It has not been good for you. The female you are going to sounds to me, as she is expecting more out of it than you realise and wants you in her bed. If you wanted to be with her you would have gone before this. Okay, don't rush and if nothing changes then go. These chances don't happen often. As for now sort this mess before you do anything life changing. I do believe you need a more trustworthy partner,not a new life. I think the on off relationship is the problem,not your life. Things will get better.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Go....you only live life once and life is short...so if this will make you happy then why not?Maybe this will help clear your head and find you some happiness!
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