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writes:I'm having problems with my married guy friend. I have known him for a really long time, way before he got married or even met his wife. We dated initially but realized we were better off as friends. He recently found out that his wife cheated on him in the past and was considering leaving her. However, she is now pregnant...with his kid. We still keep in touch but he keeps bringing up the past with the two of us recently. I am in no way trying to break up his marriage and would stop talking to him if he even mentioned it. But I feel like he really needs someone to talk to about things and I'm just trying to be a good friend. Would a good friend stay or just leave him alone? I'm torn.... Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Leave him alone.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 I agreee that a good friend should stay, however a good friend will also advise that he should consider counselling to repair the marriage.
Also, as a good friend you dont want to put any undue pressure on an already rocky marriage, I suggest that when he brings up the subject of 'you and him' - put him firmly in his place and tell him that was in the past and will stay in the past.
I think he has a lot of issues to deal with and he needs to sort his life out, not keep going back to the 'good old days...'
Encourage him to go to counselling and be there for him when he needs a shoulder to lean on....
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 well a good friend would probably stay but if he's saying these types of things then perhaps it's better you leave him be, he needs to make a decision on his own whether he wants to live with his wife and child and try to make things work or whether he wants to live with his wife and child and things are rough.
either way they need to think of this unborn child and what effect there relationship will have on this child in the near future.
if he wants to make his marriage work and give it ago then fine i would tell you to suggest a counselling session marriage counsellor.
if she has cheated how does he know that child is actually his?
hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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