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writes:I have a boyfriend he's 27 years old I'm deeply in love with him I live with my dad and he don't want me to have any boyfriend untill I'm 30. he treats me like a 2 years old girl the only way I could go out it's when I'm going to church or school. he don't even want me to have a job. I feel miserable and I just lost my mom on haiti's earthquake I feel so disheartened I'm tired to living like this I wanna tell my dad about my boyfriend I don't how he would react. I'm scare cause he might kick me out I don't know what to do now please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): I married an older man. My parenst weren't pleased when he was my boyfriend but eventually they came around and realised he made me happy. Your father just wants to protect you and make sure you get the best from life - afterall, you are the closest person he has.
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reader, SerenadeStarsRocks +, writes (21 April 2010):
 I agreed with 'AskEve'
I understand that you lost your mother in the earthquake and im sorry abour your lost. Just talk to your dad calmly about your problem. Let him know that ur not a child and even through he lost his wife he have to let u walk on your own two feet. Tell him about your bf. It will hurt him later on when he finds out surely. He will think why havent you told him sooner? He might think that you dont trust him enough. Whats the worse that he can do? He wouldnt kick you out if he truely loves you. You have the right to date anyone according your age, without any say from your parents actuelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guyz but I just want your to know my dad is haitian your probably don't know hatian's parents they are over protective and a little stupid as the same time I can't even mention a boy name on his house and I can't express my feeling he droves me crazy............
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 I'm sorry to hear you lost your mom. Your dad is only being protective of you. Remember he lost his wife in that earthquake and he doesn't want to lose you too soon either (to another man). Have you mentioned him at all to your dad? If not you could bring his name into the conversation sometimes and let your dad know how much you like him. Keep things low key though and don't play on how much you love him as that will only get your dad's hackles up and he'll become even MORE protective. If you don't think he'll let you see him then ask your dad to compromise by bringing him over for dinner one night so he can meet him for himself and see he has nothing to worry about.
Although you still live under his roof you're in the 18-21 age bracket so you ARE an adult now and should be given a bit more lee way. You need to let your dad know you're not a child any more and that he can trust you. If you show by your actions that you are a mature adult and can be trusted then he may be more inclined to see things your way.
~Eve~
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reader, toniaa +, writes (20 April 2010):
 hi there
hope i can help you out, i think your dad should maybe give you a bit more space as you lost your mum sorry about that. but if you take a step back and look at the bigger picture your dad is just looking out for you. but he also needs to let you have a life of your own and have some fun sit your dad down and put across the idea of you having a boyfriend and take it from there let me no how this goes for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): Honestly? you can go to college...
or if not, move out and move in with your boyfriend.
Your dad is going to be upset no matter what choice you do, but he should always love you
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