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writes: Hi guys i need real big help, my Current bf ive been with 7 months, has a 4 year old daughter with his ex, well hes becoming really close to her again after she split with her new bf, she has been really horrible in the past few months that she was with her now ex bf, Anyways my bf does loads fo her like helps her move house, runs after her if need be, Anyway the other week she told him she had a miscarridge when the split up in november last year and never told him but out of the blue told him the other week,My question is do i need to be worried about him going back to her or her trying to get him back people told me she would try to get prgnent again so she doesnt have to work,BUT ONE MORE THING MY BF HAS TOLD ME LOADS THAT HE ONLY DOES THE THINGS FOR HIS DAUGHTERS SAKE AND THAT HE WOULD NEVER GO BACK TO HER, HE ALSO SAID THAT TO HIS MUM LAST NITE, DO I NEED TO LAY OFF HIM AND TRUST HIM OR REALLY BE WORRIED, IN A WAY I TRUST HIM BUT NOT HIS EX PLZ HELP
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (2 August 2008):
I really think you should stop worrying and trust your boyfriend.
His ex's behavior doesn't sound fishy to me at all and he goes to help her because she may actually need help raising the kid. Also, he might be trying to help his ex more so he can see his daughter more and be in a good relationship with both of them.
You have to understand that she's his daughter's mother and the one who has the costudy of the child, so visting the kid will also involve him talking to his ex. So him building a good relationship with his ex will not only benefit him but also his daughter. Many will tell you a kid will be happy in a happy environment.
He has also told you that you're the one for him and that he has no intentions to go back to his ex. He even told that to someone else. I assume he's a great guy since you never mentioned any negative aspects about him, nor you have mentioned any other kind of fishy behavior, so why would you not trust him?
I suggest you to listen to geordigirl22 story and think about what you're feeling. What happened to geordigirl22 happens to many women who doubt their boyfriends/husbands about this kind of behavior.
Well, good luck
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reader, geordiegirl22 +, writes (1 August 2008):
I was in exactly the same situation, but not anymore, my worries about his ex tryin to win him back turned into an obsession, now im not with him, and shes not with him.
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