My boyfriend treats me like crap but I can't leave him!

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hey guys..I have a serious problem and need some good advice. A little background: I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we started dating when I was a Senior in Highschool and my mother was soon diagnosed with cancer which ultimately took her life 2 years later. All the while we were together, and it seems like he always didn't care too much for me. We would try to meet up and he'd "sleep" for 2 hours whlie I was waiting in a parking lot for him, or I found him using an AOL account talking to random women and ex gf's but when I brought up my Ex it was WWI. We continued to date and I soon realized he would often make me feel down about myself and yell for no reason. Now 6 years later we live together but I find he still has the same bad habits. I have caught him twice talking sexually to women on the internet whom he had previous sexual encounter with, and he has signed up for over 20 porn sites in the last year. Meanwhile, I am told by him, to shut up about everything, how annoying I am, etc when I try to tell him how I'm hurt about what he was doing behind my back. I am not a prude girl either, I love to be sexual and have a collection of lingerie etc that I try to entice him with, but unlike with the women online, he doesnt put any effort into me or our relationship. When I send an e-mail to say Hi, I get nothing, when I try to start a convo he answeres in one word. When I bring up the fact that he does these things he tells me to shut the F up and yells at me as if I was cheating or doing something terrible, when all i'm trying to do is make us better. I'm sad all the time, when he gets home he never smiles or looks very happy to see me, and I dont know what to do. We have had fights where he smacks or hits me and then a day later cries about how he shouldnt do it, but then a week later or a month later hes yelling and pulling my hair again. I don't know how to get out of this, I really love him and want it to work, but I dont know if it can. He obviously does not want to live in reality and see that hes making no steps to make me feel like a special girl in his heart and I wish I could get him to. What do I do??? Help me please.. =(

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