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writes:okay so i have been with my boo for like a week now, school is done and he called me and asked if i want to go with him to the pool.but i am 13 and 210 pounds. but i look 160 pounds since im 5"5. but i am highly highly emberassed to go in the water because i have to go in my bathing suit. i told him he said its fine dont be scared i said i dont know what you will think he said i wont think anything its fine. but i dont believe it ive always been made fun of because of my weight. always.should i just not show up and say i forgot?what should i do?im emberassed Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 What sports interest you? Perhaps you could get your parents to sign up for a gym or you could play soccer. Swimming is also great exercise... so is dancing.
There are many. It's more fun to be active if you like the exercise you do.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (26 June 2009):
Hey,
All females feel self-conscious in a bathing suit. I imagine that your boyfriend likes you the way you are.
If you would like to lose some weight, of course you can. You should talk to a doctor or nurse about how... but, I've become much more athletic recently and I'm already starting to see changes.
Just go to the pool, and enjoy yourself.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 June 2009):
Just be confident! Enjoy yourself and like everyone else said, just wear something that covers up a bit. He's not going to suddenly dislike you because he saw you in a swimsuit. He likes you just the way you are. And like anonymous said, just try and lose some weight in the future. I'm not saying you need to be stick-thin, but to help become more secure with yourself and just be healthier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): First of all ... no one thats 210 pounds looks like he is 160 pounds ... and 5'5 is average hight for a woman .. .I am 5'5 and 158pounds ... when I was 220 pounds I looked like I was 220 pounds !!! But you are only 13 years old?
Well first of all about your boyfriedn ...
He loves you the way you are othervice he would not be with you, so being afraid of going to the beach or pool with him is silly. He knows you ... and he likes you ...
get some nice ONE PIECE bathingsuit, some simple colors .. nothing crazy ... nothing too showy .. and no 2 piece !!! And if you are heavier aroudn you hipp area get a lil skirt to cover that ... or if you are heavier at your tummy area, get one of those bathingsuits that have lil tank top style top taht will cover it ...
Dont worry just do it
But now ... if you are 13 years old and you are seriulsy 210 pounds ... girl ... do somethign about it. Iv been there when I was 18 and it was horrible. I feel soo much better and healthier now .. and also .. Im not scared or embarresed to go out on public and show off my body. I still have curves but now they are nice.
But taht was just out of the actuall quesiton
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Its horrible to feel insecure about your body but trust me, you will over analalise your body, everyone does. If he's your boyfriend why would he be with you if he didn't think you were attractive, if he loves you he will accept you for who you are =)
i know how it feels to be self concious of your body, I have asn 18 inch scar on my back and I used to be really self concious of that but I realised life is too short to worry about stuff like that. Go to the pool and enjoy yourself, act confident even if you don't feel it. He will admire that. :)
hope my advice helped, update on how it goes =)
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): heeeyy hunny! go and buy yourself a new swimsuit, you can get a tankini, i personally dont like them, they annoy me lol, but you can get some really nice swimmin costumes with support that pull you in and make you look sexier :) they're not even expencive, it was the best thing i ever bought after giving birth x
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reader, Tbonex +, writes (26 June 2009):
 If this person you're with thinks you look good enough for it, then do it. Even if he didn't, you shouldn't be so insecure about your looks. People will like or not like you no matter how you look. It's true.
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reader, pure shade 5 +, writes (26 June 2009):
 if he says he wont think anything u should belive him not all boys lie and it is normal to be embarassed but i think u should go to the pool...but i cant tell u what to do...
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