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writes: Don't know how to continue in a relationship. Been together over 4 yrs. 2.5 years ago was asked to join his family business to help out. Didn't know how controlling and verbally abusive his parents (the bosses) were. Always shouting and scolding, being conservative and demanding. They had a set bias against me that I had a bad attitude. Just because I'm not submissive and a "yes" person. Over time things just deteriorated. Don't know when the bosses will be explosive as they are very temperamental. Gradually I just shy away from them. Numb. Try to keep away from conflict. But they just think it's my bad attitude worsening. Me and him are just falling down the hill too. There's too much conflict plus it's always about work, things his family wants, parents want etc. I'm leaving the job. He gets scolded and belittled everyday by his parents about how useless he is. There's just too many stressors. I thought it was better to break up. Everyone move on. He wanted to continue and give us another chance. Things will get worse when I leave. His parents ego will be hurt and how can we be together? I can never be accepted. The journey is a steep uphill task. What to do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Since most of the stress seems to be related to your job and his family, I am optimistic. Just find another job, and stay away from his family as much as you can, - get your peace of mind back and this will have a powerfully positive effect on your relationship.
Their feelings will be hurt....and ? Is this supposed to be your problem ?... Why ?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Woah, who cares if their ego gets hurt? From you're post they're extremely verbally abusive to you and your boyfriend. If his parent's business is stressing the both of you and putting a major strain on your relationship then it's time for the both of you to quit. They might not accept you, but they don't seem to accept their son either! Quit, work on your relationship, then find careers you both love.
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