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writes:So for the past year or so, i got the chance to meet a very special guy from our small school that we both went to. He's three years older than I. We began as friends and nurtured that friendship as we talked more and more, realizing the unique and special..and rather compatible, personalities that we both shared. But then it came to the point that we could well as label us as being in a relationship. I loved him..always shall.. and the fact that he was by my side, and he shared these feelings towards me, and as far as I know,even stronger. He's helped me in so many ways, and I'd forever treasure what he's been for me.. who he's been for me. However, this was my first experience of all this. Never before had i been in a relationship, and never had i planned on, as that would contradict certain values i hold. religious, as well. so not very long ago at all, I realized that I had to make the most difficult choice of all..of letting go, which explains my use of past tensed as presented above. I made this choice, after much strength and thought, not only because i wouldn't be able to step on who I really am, but also because i wouldn't want my limits (i.e. on the physical components of the relationship) to be a burden on him, because i care for him. Although the question of, well,"if he loves me so much as we both know it, would he truthfully leave because I won't give him the full "benefits" of a relationship now?" has come across me, i dismissed it knowing that it was probably me just making a big deal of things that a true relationship brings along.But, i let go nonetheless. It's hard on us both, and he has mentioned that he'd like me to let him know when i "am ready", although he did not answer my mention of "even if it is in a couple years?". I feel so empty right now, even though it was my choice in the end. What should i do? Go back with him, or wait for this hard time to wear off, if ever? please help =/ Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Only you can make this choice sweetie, you pretty much broke up with him because you didnt want to have sex with him which is fair enough if that is your beliefs but you should have spoke to him about it, told him your beliefs and gave him a chance to see if he wanted to be with you without the physical side of the relationship or if he didnt want to wait, get in contact with him, tell him why you finshed things and ask him his thoughts on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): Go back. You are in love with him.( true and crazy beautiful ) Practice safe sex.
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